Settingboundarieswith your parents as an adult isnt always easy.

But it may be necessary for your own well-being and the health of the relationship.

Know that boundaries are foryou.

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Theyrea way to respect yourselfand honor your needs.

Theyre not about controlling other people in this case, your parents.

A boundary is not telling someone they need to change, she told HuffPost.

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Its changing your relationship to someone or their behavior when their actions are compromising your wellbeing.

Adult children often worry that if they set boundaries, they might jeopardize their relationship with their parents.

However, what is lost from not trying to create a dynamic that is actually healthy?

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Other times, they may need to be more rigid, hard limits.

In either situation, its important to acknowledge what works best for you, Caraballo said.

We asked therapists what boundaries adult children might want to set with their parents.

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Below they share the ones you should consider and offer practical advice on how to have these conversations.

Boundary #1: No commentary about my body.

Its understandable if remarks about your body get under your skin.

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And its valid to want to put a stop to them.

You dont have to tolerate it, no matter your size, Caraballo said.

Boundary #2: Limits on conversations about my money.

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When youre financially independent, hearing your parents opinions about how you handle money can be frustrating.

Their concerns may come from a good place: They just want to ensure youre financially stable.

Try saying something like, I understand youre concerned for my future and want the best for me.

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Im comfortable with how Im managing my money and the plans I have for my life, Caraballo suggested.

I dont want to discuss this further.

Boundary #3: No digs about my about career choices.

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Id appreciate your support.

And if thats not possible, then Id appreciate your silence on the matter.

Boundary #4: No unsolicited advice in general.

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If you wanted their guidance, youd say so.

When you get advice you didnt ask for, it can be annoying or even hurtful.

I wont hold you responsible if my decision turns out poorly, Ill just learn from my mistake.

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Boundary #5: No gossiping about our family members.

If these sound like very mature things to say, its because they are, Hart said.

Boundary #6: No more trying to fix each others emotions.

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We havent seen you in forever.

It feels like you dont care about us at all anymore.

I actually do care about you both and believe this will be better for our relationship right now.

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Boundary #7: Dont assume well do things the way we always have.

Perhaps, growing up, your family took a vacation to the same spot every August.

But with your limited PTO, youd prefer to spend that time off volunteering.

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Or maybe you visited your parents every Sunday for dinner for years and years.

And lets keep this as an open discussion, because things will continue to change.

Here is some general guidance it’s possible for you to apply to whatever situation you find yourself in.

Dont over-explain yourself.

Hart tells her clients to consider their parents limitations and their history together when broaching these conversations.

Some parents may be capable of a more in-depth conversation, while others may not be.

In the latter case, a simple, straight-to-the-point statement might be the best course of action.

give a shot to be patient with your parents within reason.

make a run at be compassionate with your parents, if youre able to be.

Assume repair is possible.

But if you oughta take a step back from the relationship, thats OK, too.

We all have our limits and its OK to honor those.

Consider working with a therapist.

In some cases, setting boundaries with your parents can be very painful and very challenging, Stoddard said.

She recommends working with a therapist especially if youre dealing with difficult family dynamics or trauma.

And its important to have a therapist help you navigate the process.This article originally appeared onHuffPost.