I’m not here to live life on hard mode.
After his therapist suggested the same thing, we decided to give it a whirl.
For example, I wanted to split our rent and utilities proportional to our income.
Neither of us were right or wrong here.
Another big thing is that me and my partner both have various mental illnesses.
One of mine is OCD, including relationship OCD.
I can spend hours making lists and mentally going over floor plans without even realizing Ive lost sleep.
That’s the good thing about therapy: it forces you to make time for introspection.
My partner is more of a lets just see how it looks in the place kind of guy.
than they are problems in our relationship.
My preconceptions about this didnt come from nowhere.
But how happy I am to have been proven wrong.
The priest who will be marrying us later this year is a huge fan of it.
Besides, a huge aim of any therapy is to strive for healthier conditions than what came before.
I have felt the need to stress that counseling, for us, was preventative.
It wasntneeded.With hindsight, it feels like a strange thing to want to emphasize.
Its a wonderful thing that we werent in dire straits.
I want to make life easy for myself and my loved ones.
I have no interest in making things more difficult.
Our relationship is joyous, fun, and loving and I want to maintain that.
