“He currently is working two full-time jobs and Ubers on his off days to keep us afloat.
Here is where I might be the a-hole.
I do all of the expense managing and have continued to put money into my ‘escape account.'”
She’s a 34-year-old woman who has been married to her 37-year-old husband for seven years.
We are both child-free so that was never a concern.
My husband made a comfortable mid-six-figures salary.
All was good until about two years ago when he was injured at work in a near-fatal accident."
“We had hospital bills and a lawsuit that we lost that ate up nearly all of our savings.
“Here is where I might be the asshole.
After an argument, my husband went through our finances to see where we could cut back.”
I broke down and revealed my money to him, which now sits at about $47,000.
After I told him all this he just broke down sobbing.”
He left the house to stay with his brother and said I hurt him on every possible level.
You could have put a pause on your personal withdrawals for the past two years.
He almost fucking DIED!
And your mom… Why would you bail now???
He’s done nothing but support you both.
Why haven’t you BEEN working, if you were so concerned about your escape fund?
You don’t even have children!!"
Seriously Id feel much better if you came on here and said ‘just kidding’!"
“I read this twice and Im sorry but you’re the asshole.
Big time,” userRMskisaid.
“You know what made me cringe most in this story?
The refusal to downsize,” userHeraonolympia123agreed.
“That would help you both, especially if you go back to work.
The house you have is too much for your current income.
“And your mom is wrong to suggest that you should abandon him because you have the money to.
He is not abusive, drug/alcohol dependent/ financially abusive/ cheating.
He needs your help.”
So couple of things:
“That money isnt yours, its both of yours.
Youre married and your assets are split.
At minimum hes entitled to half.
Youre a massive asshole,” userImperiousMagesaid.
