This ritual can improve your sex life, whether you’re kinky or not.
Whensexis over, does your partner just roll over, reach for their phone and zone out?
Maybe they doze off right away while you lie there, wide awake, looking for connection.
Perhaps theyre the kind of person who finishes, gathers their things and heads straight for the door.
If any of this sounds familiar, you could probably use some aftercare in your sex life.
And its high time we make it a standard part of vanilla (i.e.
non-kinky, conventional) sex, too.
You might also talk about what you each enjoyed or didnt about the experience.
What you choose to include in your aftercare practice may vary depending on your individual preferences.
It involves a higher level of vulnerability and trust than normal sex.
(And if youre already in the habit of doing this, then props to you!)
Aftercare is definitely not just for BDSM scenes or sex, Play said.
Its also something that should be done in casual sex, in my opinion.
Good sex, no matter how tame or wild, requires intimacy, vulnerability and lowering our inhibitions.
And itsnot unusual for people to feel a little down, anxious or otherwise offafter its over.
Post-sex, people are often flooded with intense emotions and neurochemicals like oxytocin, Play said.
If you want to bond with someone, this is the time to do it.
Aftercare isnt just for people in committed relationships (or those who wish to be).
Even if youre in afriends-with-benefits situationor having aone-night stand, it’s possible for you to practice these principles.
A sexual experience that ends too abruptly can exacerbate these negative feelings and leave some people feeling used.
But having these honest conversations ahead of time is worth it.
