A blessing for some, a curse for others, and a whole lot of heartbreaking confessions.
We recentlyaskedtheBuzzfeed Communityto share their experiences sleeping with men in relationships.
Here’s what they had to say:
Note: BuzzFeed isn’t able to verify the claims below.
“I’ve been dating married men for 10 years now.”
“Its been a few years and I still cant forgive myself for being part of that.”
“I started seeing a guy who told me he was divorced.
I dont like to pry early on so I didnt press for exact details.
He told me things, and it all just built towards being divorced.
But he left out that there was another marriage with kids after that one.
It was probably two months before I found out.
I wish I had ended it there, but I didnt.
It went on for over 2 years, during which he did formally separate from his wife.
Its been a few years, and I still cant forgive myself for being part of that.”
Audrea, 41
3.
“I was the other woman without knowing it.”
“In the Marines, many service members marry so that cash in on some decent pay incentives.
Some will marry friends; others will marry other members because then they both get more money.
Adultery also happens to be a punishable offense.
The circumstances do not matter.
He couldnt seem to understand why I was upset!
Sorry, no dick is worth the consequences, which includes a reduction in rank and a pay cut.
No thank you.”
shannonm49e341999
5.
“My first serious relationship after my divorce was with a cop.”
“He told me how his wife passed away, and he is going through a rough time.
For three years, I had no idea he was married.”
“I was casually seeing someone.
Three years have gone by, and all of a sudden, he ghosted me.
I figured he found someone, and he was too scared to say anything.
Four months later, he asked to meet up.
I agreed just for closure.
He told me how his wife passed away and that he was going through a rough time.
For three years I had no idea he was married.
I feel like crap, this poor lady who was sick was being cheated on.
Who does that?”
wittyclown6048
7.
“He was married and had a whole life in New Zealand.”
“It was very thrilling.
We still had communication up until 2022.
Now he is trying to contact me again.
Honestly, he is the jot down of risk I am willing to take.
He brings out another side of me that I never felt.
He makes me feel so strong and weak at the same time.
But the thing is, I know hes not seeing a relationship with me.”
Anonymous
9.
“The kinkiest/best lovers.”
“I am a hotwife and have been with several married men.”
“Im in a situationship that has lasted on and off for six years.
We are in it for mutual sexual enjoyment only, no feelings.
His wife isnt into sex.
I know he loves his wife, she just cant give him the satisfying sexual experiences weve had.
I met him on a dating site, and hes cheated with many others.”
We stayed together for six years before it was clear he wasnt leaving her, and I finally left.
I heard from him eight months later, he claims they are getting divorced now….six+ years later.
Too late buddy."
“His wife had their baby during our affair.”
effmigently
15.
“I had a backpacking affair with a guy I met while traveling in SE Asia.
“Hes actually my ex and the love of my life.”
“When we reconnected, I was in a relationship.
I thought the affair was a quick one-time physical fling.
He said he was in an almost loveless and toxic marriage with very little intimacy.
I believed him and still do.
I witnessed a few interactions between him and his wife.
We decided to make a run at make a full-blown relationship out of it.
We were in love, but he didnt want to leave his wife because of their children.
It lasted over a year, but we couldnt make it work.
I wasnt getting what I needed from him in terms of companionship and non-sexual intimacy.
There was always the stress of ‘What if she finds out and takes the kids?’
I couldnt blame him for that fear.
Hes an awesome dad, and I would never want him to lose his kids.
Hes still the love of my life.
I love him deeply, purely, and with all of my heart.
Its the most complete love Ive ever felt.
I dont think Ill ever love anyone as much as I love him.
Unfortunately for me, that stood for nothing in the end.”
“He was my boss, and I thought he was the most wonderful man on the planet.
What I didnt know was that he was a pathological liar and serial womanizer.”
She also never wanted to hear about his partner/partners/adventures.
They moved away a few years ago, so I don’t see him anymore.
