The average cost of a California wedding was $41k last year.

That’s absolutely wild.

Hi, I’m Morgan!

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I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for eight years.

Do we even need to get married?

I’m still undecided.

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If you’re happily unmarried, that’s also great!

These are just my personal thoughts for my own relationship.

1.Pro: I’d love to have a wedding.

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2.Con: Weddings are EXPENSIVE.

3.Pro: I could add my boyfriend to my healthcare plan.

4.Con: The historical context of marriage leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

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5.Pro: It can be a good financial decision.

6.Con: Marriage means giving financial control away.

7.Pro: We’d be able to make medical decisions for each other.

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8.Con: Divorce seems really, really hard.

9.Pro: I would have beautiful wedding pictures.

11.Pro: My boyfriend’s family would officially become my family.

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12.And finally, con: It’s what everyone expects us to do.

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