Here’s what they had to say:
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“Bring your own makeup!
Anonymous
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Your job is to bring positivity and stick up for your bride.”
These were two things I learned in the first of five weddings I was in."
“People may not like this, but confirm you set boundaries and expectations with the bride.
You are not hired help, and don’t let her treat you like that.
heyhello123456
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I guess the best advice would be to know what youre getting into when you agree to it.
“For wedding activities, check your ego at the door.
I promise youll have a good time.
double-check the bride is having a good time, is never alone, and is surrounded by supportive friends.
Just be present for yourself and them.
If it wont, let it go.”
“If its a wedding in the afternoon or evening, EAT SOME GODDAMN LUNCH.
Ive been a bridesmaid in three weddings, including one as maid of honor.”
salvina
11.“Hiya!
Six-time bridesmaid here (three-time maid of honor): It’s okay to say ‘No.’
see to it to ask what, if anything, they specifically need help with.
DIY favors or invites?
Recommendations for makeup artists?
Sometimes even just asking makes a huge difference in lightening their load.”
Being a bridesmaid is a lot of work during the actual reception part, but its fun!”
“An early discussion about what the bride expects will save a lot of aggravation on both sides.
It might also help you both to find areas of flexibility early on.
But she had no problem with us doing our own hair and makeup, which saved me $200.
“So much depends on the personality of your bride.
I was pretty lucky with mine she had minimal expectations.
A few bridesmaids missed the bridal shower and the bachelorette, respectively, and she wasn’t upset.
When I asked her if she wanted me to lose weight or change my hair, she was horrified.
Most weddings will have things you have to put up with that you aren’t thrilled about.
For me, it was an incredibly long time spent taking photos.
Do what you might, and set firm boundaries where you need them.
Either way, an early discussion with the bride will save you from potential arguments down the line.”
“Make the day about the bride.
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