Nobody ever said marriage is easy so we want to hear about the hard parts that genuinely surprised you.

You could reflect on your first fight with your spouse.

How did you handle it?

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Nobody ever said marriage is easy — so we want to hear about the hard parts that genuinely surprised you.

Maybe you realized later that you were actually in the wrong.

It could also be about the challenges of combining your finances.

Whatever your lessons are, I want to know about them.

Will Smith speaking seriously. Overlaid text reads, I was not going to fail in this marriage

Comment below about the everyday realities of marriage that were waaay harder than you thought they would be.

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