Let’s get down to it.
Everyone’s story is different.
Note: Some submissions include topics of domestic abuse.
c’mon proceed with caution.
“I dated a girl for three and a half years.
We were engaged, and one day, she said she didnt love me anymore.
I did this on Tinder back in 2015.
In three months I had slept with 30 new women and around five exes/old flings.
I filled many holes, but none of them filled the hole my ex-fiance left inside my heart.
I was extremely unhappy.”
“I just stopped altogether.
I wasn’t happy because of who I was, not because she left.
It was time to reignite the fires and grind it back out career-wise instead of fucking around online.
And honestly, I wasnt.
So I quit my job and went back into my field full-time.
Four months later, I met my now-wife.
This is what people mean when they say, ‘Work on yourself.’
u/1Hugh_Janus
2.
“I used to sleep around a few years ago and I felt shitty.
I’ve been in a relationship for a few years now and enjoy it.
Do I miss sleeping with strangers?
Would I prefer that over what I currently have?
u/ElegantMankey
3.
The problem was that I was never going to find that self-worth through women.
To me, they were all the same because I didnt value myself.
Now, Im in a much better place mentally and romantically.
I am very selective of who I approach to speak to and ask out.”
u/rolendd
4.
“When I was single I had fun sleeping around.
I’d make connections pretty easily and enjoy sex if the person was fun.
u/sealcubclubbing
5.
“When I slept around a lot, I was looking for something serious.
But finding a great relationship is really hard, and new relationships dont usually work out.
One-night stands were rare events.
Usually, it was more like a year full of six to eight-week ‘relationships.’
u/Pierson230
6. u/none_other-than_me
7.
“A 36-year-old male here.
From the age of 24 to 34, I slept around a lot.
Im talking 150-200 bodies, two or three different partners per week.
Sleeping around gave me a sense of power, control, and validation.
Today, Im still learning to navigate my new life with a new set of values.
If I could take it all back, I would.
Im still having issues with cultivating healthy relationships and intimacy today.
It was all meaningless.”
u/Classic_Tea_9871
8.
“I had a period of having a lot of sex.
Its fun, and it fulfills a specific need.
So sometimes it did fulfill me on certain levels, but it wasn’t love.
I think you might compare it to eating food but its not your favorite food.
u/SnooBeans8816
9.
“The more you do it, the less you want to ‘buy the cow.’
Under no circumstance will you ever matter.
you might get just about everything but you’ll never matter.
u/observantpariah
10.
“There are pros and cons to sleeping around, dating, and having a relationship.
However, the several friendships and connections that are made are a great part of sleeping around.
Its like having several friends to do different activities with at the same time as having a bedroom variety.
People who say they feel empty sleeping around should perhaps try having somewhat of a relationship with each person.
A lot of guys aren’t honest.
That’s my two cents .”
u/Responsible-Ant-2720
11.
“I slept with about 30 women last year (Im 33 years old) mainly through dating apps.
I enjoyed it and it was one of my best years.
I just enjoy meeting different women.
They all do something different.
I get very bored easily with people, so I dont stick around for long.
I sometimes think Ill never find someone I want to be with long-term.
u/cmd242
12.
“During most of my twenties, I slept around a lot.
Some years were more fruitful than others.
Im a decent-looking guy, but not Leonardo DiCaprio.
I didnt know how to put someone else first.
I didnt understand how to make someone else happy.
u/Dpg2304
13.
“I slept around at a point in my life when I wasn’t ready for a relationship.
It was nice meeting people and having fun.
I was dumped, so I had a year or two of ‘how will I love again?’
I built stronger relationships with my friends and had some fun while I did it.
It was fulfilling my needs then, but it couldn’t last more than a couple of years.
Now I’m in a committed relationship, and I hope I’m never in that position again.”
u/Mrhorrendous
14.
“I did it in my twenties because I was curious and because ‘I could’ I guess.
Being somewhat good-looking and working in the nightlife industry, girls were easy to come by.
So, maybe I just slept around knowing that I only loved one person.
u/sebenza-mercator
15.
“I don’t know if ‘fulfilling’ is the right word I never looked to date for fulfillment.
I looked to it for fun and pleasure.
Fulfillment is more about your work or your missions in life.
I did ‘successfully’ sleep around for a few years, but I quit dating altogether.
Some women were so awful, and I became too disgusted to feel any attraction towards them.”
I am ‘intentionally dating’ at this point in my life, but I am realistic about my options.
Dating becomes substantially harder for this reason.
Usually, people have varying degrees of baggage.”
She was a great woman and I let it go.
I value my solitude, and thats hard to give up.
I accepted that a long time ago.”
u/bernie_lost_lolowned
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
