“The biggest decision you’ll ever make iswhoyou have a kid with.
You are locked in with that person for life.”
Well, fortunately for men on the internet, these folks didn’t hold anything back.
Also, be able to open up with your feelings to them.
u/extropia
“I am going to take this advice.
No one ever organizes anything or makes any effort to just catch up and spend time together anymore.”
u/terdferguson9
2. u/netnut58
3.
Take the initiative to start things.
u/Gahvandure2
“[Apologizing correctly] looks like: Taking ownership.
‘Im sorry I did/said [the thing].
‘I wont do it again/Ill seek help.
‘But you do X, Y, Z, all the time.”
u/harryvonawebats
4.
“[Don’t stay in a bad relationship] because you ‘feel sorry for her.’
I did that it was a huge, huge mistake.
I felt like she was very invested in the relationship and would not take thebreakupwell.
u/cheddoline
5.
“The biggest decision you will ever make in your life iswhoyou have a kid with.
But it’s possible for you to’t undo the parent of your child.
You are locked in with that person for life.
Get it right and life will be good, or get it wrong and your life will be hell.
Choose VERY carefully you do have control.
There’s a gadget called a condom always have some around.
And if you’re committed to not having kids, then get a vasectomy.”
u/PhilMeUpBaby
6.
“Never get complacent in your job and your career keep your eyes open for opportunities and challenges.
u/AnybodySeeMyKeys
7.
Theyll need you less and less, and grow into their own social groups.
This is good dont hold them back, but do appreciate the moments you have with them.”
u/the_real_some_guy
8.
Take that trip, do the thing.
u/Euryheli
9.
“Tell the people you love (parents, siblings, friends, etc.)
that you love them.
verify that you hug them and make them feel loved.”
u/DigitalRoman486
10.
“Have frank conversations with your parents about what they want as they age.
Get EVERY detail from them: Wishes, bank account numbers, insurance info, their wills.
Cover every detail it’s possible for you to while they are cognizant.
u/smokejack
11.
“Stay in some kind of reasonable shape.
It gets a lot harder to get started the older you get.
The big three and some cardio is a solid foundation.”
u/Puzzleheaded_Pipe979
12.
“Relationships are work if you dont work, you dont flourish.
And if they’re romantic, actually get to know someone first.
Wait four seasons before you take the next step.
Also, love isnt 50/50 its 100/100.
Forgive often, laugh often, and dont stop dating the person you are with.”
u/riotstopper
13.
“Learn to leave things behind because people and relationships change.
Time starts moving at an alarming pace.
u/mk-ultra2
14.
“Look at your social circle and what you guys do as hobbies.
u/BlueHerringBeaver
15. u/Physical_Manager_123
16.
“Save and invest your money your 60-year-old-self will thank you for it.
once you nail that, start investing.
“Read challenging novels that have ideas.
The mind is a muscle and becomes what it is fed.
Dont be 60 and have only fed your mind on headlines and soundbites.”
u/greyarchstone
18.
Because most of the time when you need something, they’re never around.”
u/mentalcase55
19.And finally, “Start now whatever it is, start now.
Life can start after 40 it did for me, but you dont need to wait.”
u/Bearded_Pip
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