“Marriage is not the next step after graduating school or getting a job.
It’s a merger with another entity who supports and increases the value of your entity.”
Recently, Reddit userStock_Teacher_7288asked the men of the community, “What are your opinions ongetting married?
Are some men actually interested in [it?]”
“I got married, and now I regret it.
She cheated three and a half months after our wedding (it was an emotional affair).
I probably could’ve left her if I still had it in my head she was my girlfriend.
We are working it out, but it’s hard to want all that again.”
“The affair involved photos with someone she’d met online and who lived in another country.
But it does suck feeling like you’re free to’t trust them around anyone anymore.”
u/SeventhSin-King
2.
It really was a great wedding.
I doubt I’ll ever get married again.
u/questionableletter
3.
“Currently being a bad partner is incentivized, so I would not recommend getting married.
However, it is in the ‘worse’ scenarios that men are being left.
I was doing my best to honor my vows, and she cheated and then left.
Plenty of other stories like mine can be found.
Marriage has the potential to be amazing.
u/lqxpl
4.
When in fact, I am already 100% committed for life.
People somehow view being engaged/married as this elevated state of partnership that is superior to being just partners.”
“I can respect the whole celebrating the commitment for one another.
u/Fyren-1131
5.
“I’ve been married for 13 years.
For us marriage was an act of signing a contract (both literally and figuratively).
We hadn’t lived together beforehand, so it also represented that change as well.
I’m sure for couples who move in together outside of marriage the change is more subtle.”
u/PDGAreject
6.
But the whole wedding industry can fuck right off.
While it was beautiful, it was also probably the most stressful period of my life last year.”
u/GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B
7.
“We had a wedding because it was important to my wife to have one.
We had a blast during our wedding night, but my favorite part was getting to celebrate marrying her.
Would do it again.”
u/columbush
8.
I had only assumed Id get married because ‘thats what people do.'"
u/BubberRung
9.
“I am married, but I will advise my son not to.
Today living together and having kids without marriage is totally acceptable, and nobody cares.”
u/Nathaniel66
10.
The penalty of having to support somebody would likely outweigh the tax benefit at this point."
u/MattieShoes
11.
“I’ve been married for 30 years I can’t imagine going through life without a partner.
We were friends before we were romantic, so love is an extension of our friendship.
A lot of people are against it these days.
There are some legal advantages of being married (some people don’t think about).
My wife worked with a woman who had been with a man for 25 years but never got married.
They had a house together, cars, and a lot of other stuff.
The majority of it was in his name.
He died suddenly and didn’t have a will she was left with basically nothing.
Everything went to his family, and they kept everything.
She was in her 50s and had to start from scratch.
u/emmettfitz
12.
To spend a couple of years in an unhappy marriage?
To give her half my assets after divorcing and paying alimony the rest of my life?
No, thank you.”
u/Alert-Tap4431
13.
“I absolutely love being married.
I treasure every day with my wife.
However, I think I see a lot of people getting married because its the ‘next logical step.’
I never felt any pressure from her to accelerate the timeline.
u/Chunky_Nugget212
14.
“I’m bi, and I want to find my forever person and have kids.
The marriage itself is somewhat less important I don’t need a big wedding by any means.
I would probably prefer something smaller-scale.
All of that being said, people shouldn’t rush to marriage.
u/SandSurfSubpoena
15.
“I like the companionship and want to be a father, so yes.
I’d like to settle down in my early 30s.
That being said, it’s also not something to take lightly.
They were freaked out about being single.
So, I focus on long-term potential, but it’s a slow game.
u/trimtab28
16.
I personally don’t think getting married makes your commitment to your spouse more than not being married.
I had bought a home with her, and we were raising a son together.
I don’t know that a piece of paper makes you more committed or not.
So, anybreakupwould be/could be treated like a divorce.
The stars aligned, and we took my wife’s parents there for their 50th wedding anniversary.”
It is a merger with another entity who supports and increases the value of your entity.
You are like Dude, Inc. you have goals and plans.
You acquire assets to increase your value.
MERGE with someone who also has similar goals and plans, someone whose addition increases the sum.
She should add (not subtract) to the net worth.
Does love have anything to do with it?
Marriage is a business you’re making a contract with someone.
Think before you merge.”
u/mossgard007
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
