The replies quickly filled with observations, opinions, and some hard truths.
Here’s what people shared:
1.
“They thrive on drama.
u/Jackster7917
2.
I’m not talking about like one post, but the excessive ones.
They were together for about three months total.
I just find it so obvious.”
u/JPK12794
3.
“Calling each other ugly names and saying hurtful things during a fight.
I still hear the hurtful things an ex said to me.
u/StraddleTheFence
4.
“When one person really wants a threesome and the other person really doesn’t want a threesome.”
u/AloofusDoofus
5.
“Their communication doesnt improve over time.
u/GodsBleedToo
6. u/paradoxdefined
7.
“The relationship started with cheating.”
u/Gijustin
8.
“They casually show signs that they don’t respect each other.
u/smolbibeans
9.
“I hate when someone tells embarrassing stories about their partner in front of them.
Like, you should protecting them, not ridiculing them publicly.”
u/MrSaladEars
10.
“Different spending habits.
u/Fated47
11.
“One or both people use the relationship to feel ‘whole’ or ‘fulfilled.’
u/East_of_Amoeba
12.
“When they can’t handle disagreements without it turning into a full-blown argument.
u/Puzzleheaded_Tip6967
13.
“Getting caught up in technicalities rather than caring about the other person’s feelings.
‘We weren’t technically exclusive yet!’
‘Technically, you’re the one who said you didn’t want to go to the party.’
u/Justafana
14. u/basshousekitty
15.
But, I’m referring to people who don’t even try, even for small stuff.
Just to give an example: Normal day.
You and your pal sit together.
You ask them about some stuff that’s been bothering them because you see they’re worried and sad.
They don’t say anything or say that it’s nothing.
This happens over and over again.
Or, you do something that your pal doesn’t like, but they’re not telling you.
u/YourFanBB
16.“Rushing.
You might wake up in five years and realize you hate the person you ran this little experiment with.
Relationships that are enduring don’t have anything to prove.
You simply share and exist together.”
u/bamboo_keys
17.
“Lack of trust.
As a witness, you’re able to feel the underlying tension when they interact.
The stress of it all usually leads to resentment and dissolution of the relationship.”
u/Dr_Wristy
18.
“‘Having a kid will bring us closer together and things will get better.'”
u/ConversationLeast902
19.
“Couples who have no friends, hobbies, or life outside their relationship.”
u/Blumpkin_Party
20.
“When they can’t laugh with/at each other and share no inside jokes.
Seriously, I could not imagine having an unfunny partner.
We laugh hard at least once a day, still after 18 years together.
Humor is everything.”
u/South-Designer9585
21. u/steely_92
22.
“Inability to be apart.
u/campbelljac92
23.
Think about it.”
u/Illustrious_String50
24.
If you have contempt for your partner, or your partner has contempt for you, its over.
u/huskre
25.
“Always keeping score.
A guy I used to work with and his wife always kept score with each other.
See you in a couple hours.'”
u/Trimaxian_Drone
26.
“Unresolved issues with the ex-spouses.
u/ArmyofSkanks6
27.
“They have nothing in common except that they thought the other was physically attractive.”
u/dayofthedeadcabrini
28.
“Subtle jabs at each other in groups of people.
u/Awkward_Discount_633
29.
“Going very far to prove each other wrong.
It’s sort of an egoistic/narcissistic thing to do.
u/Dutch_Bever13
30.
But, above all, not being able to compromise with each other when facing these issues.”
If you dont have that, then you have nothing.
Being able to openly communicate and meet each other halfway is everything.
Theres obviously other aspects to relationships, but that is certainly the base of a strong relationship.
u/Foresaken-Biscotti437
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