It’s like the other side of the ‘it’s expensive being poor’ concept."
And there were so many interesting responses!
Here are some of the top-votes answers:
1.
“They don’t really have a concept of how rich they are.
My ex-boyfriend was WEALTHY but had a complex about how he was super poor.
They don’t really have a point of reference for how poor some people are.
u/lavenderacid
2.
“My ex was having problems with roommates at university.
They sold it for a profit immediately after.
Meanwhile, my parents were struggling to pay rent, meaning I was their fallback.
Not the other way around.”
u/MakeRobAPirate
3.
“I dated a man who didn’t work and lived off a trust fund.
Since he could afford nearly anything, nothing had any value.
He’d buy a $400 KitchenAid mixer and burn it up making Christmas candy the first week.
If he decided to make more candy, he’d just go buy another $400 mixer.
Nothing meant particularly ANYTHING to him.”
u/BlitheringEediot
4.
“I only went on one date with him.
He booked out the entire bowling alley so we’d have privacy for our date.
“Also, he had absolutely no respect for personal space.
u/MerylSquirrel
5.
“How real the ‘online grid’ or ‘bubble’ of it is.
It’s like the other side of the ‘it’s expensive being poor’ concept.
Or my then-boyfriend would say let’s go to this concert.
u/PhiloPhocion
6.
“How much their rich parents resent you/think you’re not worthy of their precious angel.
Suffice it to say that the relationship didn’t last.
You reap what you sow, I guess.”
u/A_Furious_Badger
7.
Growing up, it felt like we were always at the precipice of catastrophe.
I always felt that one wrong move would result in us losing our house or all of our money.
“The women I’ve been in relationships with, though, seem to have none of this fear.
They always assume that things will work out.
Plans don’t need to be made because there’s always some way to solve a problem with money.
Objects don’t get much respect because they’re always readily replaceable.
u/captain_flak
8.
“Quality really does make a difference in everything from clothing to ingredients.”
u/LatterTowel9403
9.
“Dated a girl for three years who came from old money.
She was fine, but her family was beyond out of touch with the real world.
They were nice people but incredibly removed from the rest of the world.
They’d ask me what it was like going to public school.
How my parents immigrated.
They were baffled that not everyone had vacation homes or traveled a lot.”
“The most interesting thing is that old money is much more powerful than new money.
Want to build a factory in an area not zoned for it?
Within a week, that was changed.”
u/edwadokun
10.
“Grew up poor (now middle class) and at 18 dated a super rich guy.
The first thing I noticed was the food.
I also had to learn etiquette.
But the way his family interacted was SO different.
I had to learn a lot of unwritten rules that I wasnt aware of.”
u/Friendly-Sea1979
11.
“I learned just how productive having money can be.
Something needs to be fixed or replaced?
We can afford to.
Want to do something fun or adventurous?
Sure, let’s do it now.
Want to eat healthier?
We can afford all the ingredients.
Anonymous
12.
Having money was an income stream in itself.
Also, he had no concept of how much anything cost.
u/problematicsquirrel
13.
Like, she flew more in a summer than I had my whole life.
u/Aperture_T
14.
“My wife’s family has no concept of what a workday is.”
u/chumabuma
15.
“The difference between having money and having wealth.
Savings, investments, cash hidden in safes, piles of gold jewelry.
u/Listening_Heads
16.
“I dated two dudes with trust funds.
I learned no amount of money can make you forget your mommy/daddy issues.”
“I spent the first eight years of my adult life with a woman whose parents had money.
She pocketed her paycheck every two weeks.
When we went out, I paid for gas.
I didnt think much about it at the time because we were engaged.
When we broke up, she had $30k in her savings account, and I was broke.”
“Growing up with money is like hitting every green light and not having to worry about traffic jams.
And it really messes with your ability to empathize with people.”
u/ethnicbonsai
18.
“His parents had money, not him, because we were teens at the time.
Meanwhile, I was working two jobs and had a full course load.
u/frozenwitchh
19.And finally, “I learned how truly unfair life is.”
u/Preezyy
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
