“After sleeping together two or three times, she proposed to me.
Taking the time toreallyget to know a potential spouse is smart, but not everyone does.
Some brave/foolish/romantic souls throw caution to the wind and jump into marriage headfirst…often with disastrous results.
and people shared some jaw-dropping stories (including one where they got married just two weeks after meeting).
Here they are:
Note: This post contains mentions of physical, mental, and sexual abuse.
“In the military, theres a culture of getting married super fast.
I was in the military and so was my now ex-husband.
I was 19 and thought he was the love of my life.
Good thing we already lived in Vegas!
We had known each other for maybe eight weeks when we got married.
It turned out he was secretly hiring women on Craigslist for…personal interactions.
We divorced about six months after we got married.
All before I turned 20.”
anonymous
2.
“We got married after nine months.
I then found out he had written a bunch of bad checks and moved to get away from them.
She has him all to herself now.”
Kristi, Yahoo
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“I married a stripper when I was 24.
I was in the military and picked her up while she was working.
After sleeping together two or three times, she proposed to me.
I moved into her place, and she quit her job, expecting me to provide everything.
I enlisted at 22 and was still in the junior enlisted ranks.
My paycheck alone wasn’t enough, and she refused to get a regular job.
Our divorce was finalized six months later.”
“My fiance is an undocumented citizen.
He proposed, and after that, he changed completely.
Became a narcissist and treated me horribly.
Manipulating me and using me, trapping me to marry him.
He wants his papers so badly.
Ive never been so hurt.”
“He was my best friend’s cousin.
We met right after I graduated high school and dated for a couple of weeks before deciding to elope.
We drove out of state, married, honeymooned for a couple of days, and came back.
The night after we returned, I started getting text messages from an unknown phone number.
Turns out it was his ‘ex-girlfriend.’
I kicked him out, but the court couldnt serve him the paperwork.
She still took him back!”
“I got married after knowing my ex for six months two of those months he was deployed.
I think I just got caught up in his excitement.
Part of it was I was getting close to 30 and wanted to marry and have kids.
I didn’t move in with him until six weeks after we were married.
I learned pretty quickly that I didn’t really know him at all.
Found some pretty disturbing stories he had written.
After a few months, I found out that he wasn’t sure about his sexual preferences.”
“By then I was already pregnant and had such severe morning sickness that I couldn’t work.
I had moved to marry him so I felt trapped.
We tried marriage counseling, but it was pointless.
I was the happiest when he was deployed.
I had my daughter and made a plan to leave.
Those plans got fast-forwarded when something awful happened to my daughter, and he was responsible.
The divorce was traumatic, took almost two years, and cost me $30k.
I had to file for bankruptcy afterward.
It’s been 16 years, and I never want to get married again.”
Once they got married, they regretted it instantly and got an annulment within 30 days.
Surprise fact: One of the bridesmaids manipulated the freshly-confused husband and slept with him.
It took two people to ruin this, and it was already going down the toilet anyway.”
“We got engaged and bought a house three months after meeting and married three months after that.
Why wouldn’t I lock down the best man I ever met?
Well, after the marriage, he quickly turned into a narcissistic monster.
He also fat-shamed me and neglected me.
So yeah…that’s why he’s my EX-husband.
The funny thing is around six months after our divorce, he was engaged to another plus-sized girl.
I can’t roll my eyes hard enough.
I wish I could tell her to RUN!!!”
“My first husband and I got engaged after only dating for two weeks.
We got married within three months.
He quickly became abusive, and the marriage only lasted a year and a half.”
We have three children together, and celebrated our 13-year anniversary this year."
“I didn’t know what love bombing was when I met my ex.
He would try so hard to impress me and remember everything I told him I liked.
I thought he was just madly in love with me.
He was mad, alright.
We got married four months after we met.
He ended up being super controlling and emotionally abusive.
This happened several times before I finally got the guts to tell him I would never come back.
I left for good and couldn’t be happier.”
“We met one summer and were married the next.
He was my third husband; I was his fifth wife.
I should have known better; we both should have.
I cant begin to say how shocked I was.
I didnt believe her so I told him what she had told me.
Damn right I wouldnt have, and that was it for us.”
“I was single, having fun and loving life.
My friends were getting married and having kids…while I was out partying and living life.
After my best friend proposed, I felt the pressure to find a relationship and make it last.
After meeting my ex-wife, I proposed a year later.
Six months after that, we were married.
Three months after saying ‘I do,’ we separated.”
She was mentally abusive and downright mean.
We ‘fell in love’ and got engaged very quickly.
We got back together months later and were in a long-distance relationship while he lived in Germany.
I broke it off with him, and the next guy I dated became my husband.
“I got engaged at 19 after only knowing the guy for five months.
We got married four months later, and he turned into a completely different person.
Once he started threatening me with physical violence, I ran.”
“We married after five months of dating.
We’d known each other for about 10 years prior but had never been romantic, just flirty.
I guess I was caught up on the idea of romance and marriage.
I was determined to make it work, but it was all in vain.
As heartbroken as I was, I felt so relieved the first morning after we parted ways.
I knew I had the chance to be happy again!”
It was like now that he was ‘locked down,’ he could reveal his true intentions.
He was 15 minutes late, and they were gone by then.
His ex had to go to work and wasn’t going to wait around for him all day.
He made coffee a higher priority than his own kids.
So glad I left his ass."
“I was in the military and met my now ex-husband on our shared ship.
We dated for about two months before he proposed.
I got transferred shortly after, and he began going underway (out at sea) a lot.
Within two months, hed met someone he was actively choosing over me.
I made him cut her off.
He deployed about six months later and immediately started cheating with her.
I regret ever even attempting to forgive him.
“I got swept up into a relationship.
Looking back, ‘666’ should have been a hint.
When we started dating, she had my exact same interests; it was like a movie.
After the wedding, everything changed.”
We ended up getting divorced.
I tried to get us into therapy, but we only met once as a couple with the therapist.
We both met with the therapist individually, and I kept seeing the therapist after the divorce.
“He stole my identity two days before the wedding and disappeared.”
First date to married in about four months.
Shame on me, I was a grown ass man and should have ‘looked before I leapt.'”
dizzysalt27
And lastly, here’s one that went a little differently:
21.
The main reason for my regret?
Is pre-regret a thing?"
Some entries have been edited for length or clarity.
