Many people hopped on the thread to share their own experiences with lost love and almost marriages.
Here’s what they revealed:
1.
“He wanted an open marriage (we were engaged).
I am monogamous, and he knew how I felt about anything open.
Then, I found out he was in a relationship with a coworker.
He only told me about his first marriage and said that was it.
His daughter told me everything.
u/Sunnyandbright007
2.
“My friend found her on Tinder.
No, my friend didn’t match with her; they just sent me the screenshot.
I installed Tinder and found her profile to double-check.
I took her profile picture after we got engaged, so it wasn’t her old profile.
u/ApatheticWonderer
3.
It was a real blessing.
Looking back, we were only really rushing into a wedding because her dad was unwell.
I asked her because I knew he wanted to be able to walk her down the aisle.”
u/muller7uk
4.
“She ghosted me two weeks before our wedding.
We had a long-distance relationship while I was in school.
She convinced me to drop out to spend more time with her.
I ruined my friendships and future for her.
Then, she just disappeared.
I found out she got married about three months later from a mutual friend.
It absolutely destroyed me.
I have never hated anyone more.
u/HereticPrime97
5.
“They quit their job and thought I’d fund their life.
I couldn’t afford all the bills and the lifestyle they wanted.
Every day I came home, they would want to go out for food with my money.
Their parents would give them money, and they’d spend it on luxury clothing items.
I talked to them about it, but they would say they weren’t ready to work.
I realized I wouldn’t be able to pay my mortgage, and my credit card debt would increase.
They then suggested we have a kid and they could be the stay-at-home parent.
One day, I came home, and it was enough.
I told them to leave.”
u/sydneysider9393
6.
“She decided having sex with her boss for more money was a better deal.”
u/Shiny-
7.
“He had two fiancees at the same time.
I almost packed up my whole life in Sweden to move to the States on a fiancee visa.
His coworkers called and told me absolutely everything before the final flight down.”
u/ellielovisa
8.
“We were decent together, and marriage seemed like the next logical step.
I bought a ring, and we flew to California for her to meet my parents.
I was going to propose to her.
She knew my parents had money (but not to what extent), even though I didn’t.
I had difficulty paying for my $75k house with utilities and basic upkeep.
We spent a week living outside anything we could ever afford.
“I decided to wait on proposing.
She was a completely different person.
I could never convince her otherwise, and we broke up a few months after we visited California.
I’m married to a woman now who I’m obsessed with.
We have a strong and loving marriage.
We’ve supported each other through our career growth and are doing okay financially.
I never dreamt I could be this happy.
Luckily for me, everything worked out great.”
u/srcorvettez06
9.
“Oh, man.
We’ll call her A.
In the early days, A was such a delight.
For a long time, I was blind to all others but her.
A did not feel the same.
I saw what I wanted to, of course.
I’m not sure if she can treat people as anything more than set props.”
u/Stardrive_1
10. u/marska77
11.
She sincerely didn’t expect us to stay together forever.
I can respect some realism in a relationship, but I decided we wouldn’t make it right then.
We broke up that same week.”
u/notyourvader
12.
“He ended up having a wife I did not know about.”
u/Good-Temperature-262
13.
As a gay man myself, I am not paying for another grown man to live.
I don’t care if he works 35 hours a week at McDonald’s.
He has to contribute something.”
u/Samisoy001
14.“COVID.
Just being home, stuck together, stressed about bills.
The things we used to love about one another, we quickly grew to hate.
We had one last dinner together at a nice Italian place.
We people-watched an awkward couple on their first date.
I went back to her place and played Scattergories.”
“We were both emotionally drained but kept trying to make something work.
I could sense her emotional fatigue, and she knew I was there, too.
That was the last time I saw her.
We ended up mutually blocking each other on everything you could think of.
We didn’t talk for about two years.
I liked to believe she was the one, at one point.
She passed away last year.
That was a tough phone call.”
u/jakeinthemidwest
15.
“We were engaged for almost a year.
I realized we never laughed together unless I was being funny.
Her sense of humor was almost nonexistent.
It was my intellectual renaissance: a time when I started questioning everything and learning so much.
She would just say, ‘How do you even think about this stuff?
You’re so smart.’
I realized it wasn’t that I was smart.
It was that she just didn’t have a very high intellect.”
“She was a wonderful girl, but she wasn’t very intelligent.
I started getting stuff so you can move out after that.
I loved her a lot, but she wasn’t it.
I’m married to a beautiful, brilliant scientist who is incredibly funny and makes me laugh.
We have a wonderful son.
u/DjangosChains33
16.
“She slept with our roommate, who then got her pregnant.
But, it was the best thing that happened, as life is amazing now.”
u/FishMoore
17.
“I was young, we were still in college, and something didn’t feel right then.
u/Baseballmom2014
18.
“They just couldn’t function for themselves.
We visited my family, and they blew everyone off the whole time.
I asked if they wanted to discuss what happened while we were traveling.
I returned home to find all their stuff gone and never heard a word from them again.”
u/ThrowACephalopod
19.
“He had an affair with my stepmom.”
u/Fearless-Crew-3145
20.
“His mother wanted him for herself.
He couldn’t decide who he’d rather be with.
I let her have him.”
u/ohyesiam1234
21.
“She cheated on me with her boss about one month before our engagement party.
She packed some stuff and left.
About an hour later, her BFF (my good friend’s girlfriend) was knocking on my door.
I knew she had been cheating.
I packed up her stuff and gave it to herbest friendto take.
Getting over her was the hardest time of my life.
I’m happily married with two kids now.”
u/PearlyP2020
22. u/Laughyloaf
23.
“She wasn’t ready when I was, and then I wasn’t ready when she was.
I don’t harbor any regrets or bad feelings.
It just wasn’t the right time.
u/BGOG83
24.
“I realized that I just really didn’t want to get married.
I was pressured into the whole relationship, pressured into an engagement, and pressured into his religion.
I was at a point where I thought I would regret my entire life if I married him.
His only response was, ‘I’m disappointed in you.’
It worked in my favor because I had essentially mourned the relationship before it was over.
u/L-Mariee
25.
“I could write a book.
I was immature and didn’t recognize what we had was incredibly rare.
She hadn’t resolved the trauma in her past that was causing her anger issues.
It’s been over a decade since we broke up, and I never saw her again.
I don’t ask anyone about her or want to bother her, just to be clear.
I truly hope she’s happy and having a good life.
u/boingoing
26.
“She told me she never loved me and broke up with me onValentine’s Day.
We’d been an on-again-off-again couple for about 10 years by that point.
She said she loved me and she made a mistake.
I loved her, so I thought I’d have another go.
She made these massive declarations of love while also doing pretty horrible things.
She was pretty shocked when I wouldn’t forgive her this time.
It’s been a few years since then.
u/xTheatreTechie
27.
“He had been stalking another woman since he was 19.
But, other women had been victims of his con, too.
COVID hit, and she relocated to Texas at some point.
My mom has a talent for finding lots of info online with just a name and a location.
She pieced together an entire story.”
“My boyfriend and this woman went to undergrad college together.
She was a writer who blogged about many personal details and mentioned his name in a post.
She would get a job in a new state, and he’d move there within a few months.
All the details were confirmed.
He conned her like he had conned me.
COVID quarantines made it super easy to cut off people.
I deleted his number, moved back in with my family, and never spoke to him again.
u/Naraee
28.
“He married someone else on my birthday because he got her pregnant.”
u/youronlynora
29.
“He lied about everything, including his job.
He’d go to ‘work,’ but he’d really just go off and do whatever.
I have reason to think he hired a sex worker at some point as well.
And, this all occurred when I was bedridden from leg surgeries.”
u/rfantasy7
30.
“He just left one day.
He never called, texted, or anything.
He even changed his phone number.
I still haven’t heard from or about him.
u/Necessary_Pen_3897
31.
I loved her more than anything and lived in a city where I knew no one.
None of my buddies even asked how I was doing.
I was sad and alone.
Since we broke up six years ago, I got a master’s degree and completely changed careers.
I get to do the things that I want to do now.
I guess it is sometimes dark before dawn.”
u/TheGreensKeeper420
32.And: “We had been together for three years when I proposed.
We talked about dropping five figures on a glorified party for people we don’t like.
That led to a conversation about whether we really believed in marriage.
This year will mark 19 happily unmarried years we’ve been together.”
u/The_Town_of_Canada
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
