We recentlyaskedtheBuzzFeed Communityto share a secret they found out about their husbands after they were already married.
Here are some of the most memorable stories they had to share:
1.
Because I trusted him, he handled the finances.
He left me penniless eight years later.
I sold my wedding ring for groceries.
“He told me four years into our marriage that he’d slept with men before.
I wasn’t mad about him sleeping with men.
I was upset that he didn’t tell me before we were married.
He told my cousins and a good friend but not me.
And he only told me because my cousin gave him a deadline or she would.
We’re divorced now for a different reason, but I wish he’d have told me sooner.”
Sadie, Wisconsin
3.
“He hadn’t graduated high school.
While we dated, he mentioned the name of the alternative high school he attended.
I wasn’t familiar with it, but I knew it started with an A.
Long story short: The ‘diploma’ was a postcard encouraging him to finish his education.
Not only did he never graduate, he didn’t even have his GED.”
“After 17 years, he admitted he had a stutter.
But, I just figured that’s how he spoke.
It turns out this was a big deep, dark secret he kept this whole time.
I don’t care that he has a stutter, and never would have.
mauraudingbeastmachine
5.
“He’s a sex addict.
He even created fake Facebook accounts and dating profiles.
He tends to message older or middle-aged women, and they talk about sex and stuff.
He said he loves the thrill of it being behind my back and the validation.”
“He was always controlling, but he insisted it was to help make me better.
For the first four years, he bought me all my clothes without considering what I liked.
I was in my early 30s, and his choices in clothing were matronly.
After 21 years of marriage, I had enough.
We were separated for 10 years before we finally divorced because he fought me every step of the way.
He had three kids.
I was so indifferent to him by then, that I laughed my ass off.
I said I felt like I was in a Lifetime movie of the week.
This was back in 2020.”
cutepunk63
7.
“I found out my husband was two years older than I thought.
We met during my junior year of college.
He had transferred, and we were in the same biology class.
I assumed we were both 21 because we sometimes got drinks and he always carded fine.
How did this not come up in the three years we were dating and engaged?
I have no idea.
He had a drug addiction that a previous couple that adopted him caused.
He got it under control and has been clean ever since.
I thought he didn’t drink because he wasn’t interested.
It was because he was scared of getting addicted again and being abandoned because of it.
He said he didn’t tell me because I would not love him the same anymore.
Priyanka, New York
9.
“I think we’d been married for about four years at this point.
We were at a bar downtown with some friends celebrating a big promotion.
This guy kept trying to hit on me and flirt with me.
I politely told him I wasn’t interested, and we moved to a different part of the bar.
But when I went to use the ladies' room, the guy followed me and tried again.
“After multiple years of marriage, I discovered my husband still has a baby tooth.
There is no adult tooth underneath, so the baby one never fell out.”
Anonymous
11.
This should have been a warning of his future behavior.
His mother kept this secret from me as well.
We are no longer married.”
“We had been married for less than two years, and everything was great until one morning.
He didn’t get out of bed, work, or eat.
This went on for two days.
He was not physically sick.
I called his mom because I was at a loss.
He refused to get help of any sort.
No therapy, counseling, or meds.”
k4e39fd4aa
13.
“My husband moved to Canada from Italy in 2013.
He started with simple lies about where he had been or that he had gone to work.
I later discovered my husband, a 37-year-old man, had been sleeping with an 18-year-old girl at work.
He also hid bottles of booze under our son’s crib.
Needless to say, I left.”
He then texted my husband something like ‘I know.
F–k you, have a nice life.’
What’s wild is my husband kept this from me for four months.”
“I never liked these friends and am so glad they’re out of our lives.
I’m not happy about the lying.
We all have a past; no one is perfect.
But there’s never an excuse to lie.
Mandy, California
15.
“I got married on a Sunday and moved 2,000 miles away from home on Tuesday.
But thankfully, I only spent a year in that situation.
I’m celebrating my decade of divorce this year!”
“He’s bipoly and married to a woman in another state.”
Bill G., Maryland
17.
“Shortly after my husband and I were married, we moved for a job opportunity.
“He had tens of thousands of dollars in debt to the IRS and in credit cards.
I only found out because a letter came to the house, and collectors started calling me.
We’re divorced now, for this and many other reasons.”
Anonymous, Pennsylvania
19.
“My husband is 25 years older than I am.
One of them even knew about the situation and was one of his best friends.
The man wasn’t even bothered by the fact that my husband was sleeping with his wife.
He even acted as a family member toward their daughter, who is younger than I am.
That’s not all either…”
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
