Let’s go on a friendship-making quest together.
A few weeks ago, I asked theBuzzFeed Communityfor your best advice onmaking friends as an adult.
Your responses were just so wonderful.
I loved reading them.
It seems like a lot of us are in this adult-friend-making-quest-boat.
So even when it feels like we’re alone in this experience, we’re not.
So…let’s get into it!
I can virtually guarantee youll find at least a few people you vibe with."
virginiadickinsonburns
“I made new friends by volunteering at my local humane society, walking dogs.
“I’ve watched their dogs, and they have watched mine.
It worked because I met people equally passionate about a cause.”
It helps to have a routine where you start seeing familiar faces.”
“I started to find common interests through conversations, plans were made, and then friendships were formed!
The general theme here is to go somewhere with some common interest (we all love dogs).
Since you already know you have something in common, you’re off to a great start!”
“Also, going to the gym and being open to new connections works well!
Samira, 55, CA
“I joined a craft guild.
I volunteered at our events and participated in workshops.”
If people are going for drinks/food/coffee/ice cream afterward, go!
“I am having fun and have made an entire circle of new friends.”
4.Sports and Athletic Leagues
“I started sea-swimming with a local ‘mermaid’ group.
I went to a running club (I hate running), hoping to meet some people my age.
There is a commonality if we do the same bang out of work for 40 hours a week.
I’ve stayed friends with coworkers for ten years and more.”
“Sometimes, life gets busy, but we find time to reconnect with each other.
I don’t recommend coworkers you don’t vibe with.
Don’t force it since friendships should happen organically.”
I guess I was acceptable because I just became part of the group!”
7.Parenting
“I started a local group for working moms on MSN groups.
Our kids are now in their 20s, and we are still close.”
crizzy444
“In terms of what DIDN’T work, I tried the penpal app, Slowly.
rnd13001
“I tried Slowly but quit soon after.
One of the best ways I’ve found is to become friends with friends' significant others.
Obviously, be respectful of the relationship and check that your friend is comfortable with it.
“I also casually mention things that I want to do to see if anyone sounds interested.
They were both keen to check it out with me.
10.See Strangers As Potential Friends (and it never hurts to lead with a compliment!)
“I work in a grocery store and randomly told a customer I loved her purse.
We ended up talking for like an hour about our mutual love for horror.
We havent had a chance to hang out but we exchanged numbers and text all the time!
Were horror besties now planning to hang out once our schedules clear up.”
We connected right away!
I loved her vibe and energy.
“She agreed, and now we have coffee every other week!
Its crazy how it worked out.
I didnt know how much I needed her in my life until now.”
nostalgicpizza90
There you have it!
Ten crowdsourced ideas for how to make friends as an adult.
