“Old friendships sometimes don’t survive adulthood.”
I’m sure anyone could agree that adult friendships are not always easy to navigate.
The many, many responses are all too real.
Here is what some people shared:
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
“Don’t do too much for anyone.
Don’t be available too much for anyone.
Identify such people early on and keep them at a distance.
Familiarity only breeds contempt.”
u/Dr__Pheonx
2.
It doesn’t mean you are no longer friends or dislike them.
Sometimes you better move on."
u/Gazgun7
3.
Sometimes, you put a lot in and don’t get a lot out."
“Dont loan anyone money expecting it back.
Give it as a gift.”
u/pinkpixy
5.
“Old friendships sometimes don’t survive adulthood.
You will choose different paths, politics, and what you value in life.
Friendshipbreakupscan be way more painful than romantic ones.
Cut them (and yourself) some slack.
Community is everything, and individualism isolates us.
u/papamajada
6. u/Chernyyvoron82
8.
“I had a very loyal mindset towards my close friends when I was younger.
I would stand by them and make up excuses for even their worst behavior.
People show you who they really are.
I needed to learn to pay attention.
I learned a lesson in setting boundaries and minding myself.
It was a little too late because I now have trust issues, but Im working on it.
I struggle to trust my own judgment when it comes to other people.”
u/Agitated-Pickle216
9.
And you cant sit there waiting for them to change suddenly.
It doesnt mean theyre a bad person, and theyve never misrepresented themselves.
“Actions are louder than words.”
u/shayrulezd00d
11. u/match_stickss
12.
Especially as kids and partners enter the picture for everyone.
They contributed to your story where they needed to, but they wont last until the end.
at a coffee shop.”
u/urdiamondlady
14.
“When they show their true colors the first time, believe them.
They all take WORK.
Good friendships don’t exist without good communication.”
