Recently, members of theBuzzFeed Communitysharedtheir experiences with ending a friendship.
Here is what some had to say:
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
“Mybest friendand I had been best friends since university.
We were always there for each other duringbreakupsand other major life milestones and events.
After she moved out, my mom still cooked things she liked and sent them to her.
But it was always about her, everything.
“I had the same best friend from the age of 2 to 19.
People thought we were sisters because we even grew to look alike.
We went through everything together.
Then she got this absolute loser of a boyfriend who sold weed.
I knew he did because he sold to my housemate on many occasions.
This wasn’t his only red flag he was a walking red flag a real loser.
So I gently told her.
She called me a liar and believed his BS over me.
She believed this loser she had known for a few months over me, her best friend since forever.
That day, I walked away and never went back.
She’s still with him too, and he’s still a loser.”
grumpychef12
3.
“My best friend of 40 years had an affair with a co-worker.
I never knew any of this.
So when her husband found out, he was pissed at me too.”
“Instead of telling him the truth that I had nothing to do with it.
She tried to spin it in her favor.
She never called to apologize.
Instead, she sent a note tucked into a sympathy card she sent when my dad died.
That was it for me.”
sportychair82
4.
“My friend had two unplanned pregnancies back to back with a bad boyfriend turned fiancee.
All the while, she brushed off my three-year struggles with infertility.
I finally got pregnant right around the time of her wedding.
I blocked her on all fronts.
My only regret was that I didn’t end it sooner.”
“I had a friend for 20+ years that I had to divorce.
I tolerated it for a long time until I couldnt tolerate it anymore.”
tamarraevanssluga
6.
I think what set it in was when I found out my dads terminal illness had escalated.
giagiagia
8.
It was the toughest thing I did, but I didnt want their toxicity to ruin my special day.
They never responded, never apologized, and never reached out.
Hardest but best thing I could do for myself.”
Not even an ‘Im sorry’ to go along with it."
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10.
“We are in our 30s now.
We had been friends or at least knew each other since first grade.
We were the closest in high school.
I thought it wasn’t ever coming from a place of genuine curiosity rather more antagonistic.
I’m not a fighter, so I let things slide and harbored resentment.
So now it might just appear that I’m overreacting.
I just feel like I can’t put up with it anymore.”
silkyghost333
11.
“I parted ways with a friend Id known since we were in grade school.
We did everything together, but she had some real anger management issues and was very vindictive and vengeful.
They later told me they only ‘tolerated’ her because they didnt want to lose or upset me.
When this ex-friend got engaged, she asked me to be in her wedding party.
Her message sent me into a tizzy because I couldnt understand how someone could be so self-centered.
I told her I was done with our friendship.
I told her Id only be there physically.
I havent seen or talked to her since her wedding in 2015.
However, several months later, she showed up at my engagement party uninvited.
kathleenperoff
12.
“This is about my BFF and I of almost 20 years.
We went to Disneyland, the spa, multiple dinners, brunch, etc., over multiple days.
“This hits home for me right now.
This is after a long period of depression brought on by a traumatic experience he knew about.
Who needs enemies with friends like that?
All I have to say is best of luck!”
anonymous88
14.
“My best friend of 20 years got married in 2022.
I just now found out.
When confronted, she said she thought she told me.
She then let me know she was getting a divorce, and I was abandoning her like everyone else.
I’m not sure what she expected when she never reached out or wanted to hang out.
It’s always me trying to talk or see her.
It’s been like this for years.”
