“I was shocked at how the truths Id been told for years were not true.”
Recently IaskedtheBuzzFeed Communityto share secrets revealed in afamilytherapy.
Here’s what they (and some Reddit users) had to say:
1.
“My mother actually letting her walls down and APOLOGIZING.
I think she finally saw the damage it was doing to us.
So she started to really think and reflect.
Then she just couldn’t stop the Apology Party, LOL.
Yet, they were all so meaningful and genuine.
That hurt a lot and almost ruined our relationship, but we saved it in the end.
It just feels good to breathe again and have everything out and done.”
morganleslay
2.
“Back in 2013 or 2014, my family started going to family therapy.
It was just before my brother was going to leave for college.
My brother is on the spectrum and protested therapy.
He would show up late and not contribute to the sessions.
My brother protested it again and wouldnt show up.
A year after my brother moved home, my parents ended up getting divorced.
My brother has since disowned me and my mom.
I havent heard from him in close to 3 years.
24, California
3. marrbl
4.
“I was shocked at how what I’d been told for years wasn’t true.
I honestly thought we had the perfect family, and I was just messed up.
Some parents actually love their children without conditions.
The anger he had because he had to show up scared me because it radiated loudly.
It was so humiliating.
I wanted to hide under my chair.
I was so embarrassed by the public disdain he and my mother showed.”
44, Texas
5.
“My relationship with my mom got WAY better!
She finally understood that I had a learning disability, and I wasnt just trying to flunk out.
Things arent as easy for me as they are for her.
Now my mom is my biggest supporter and advocate for my challenges.
She teaches me and researches more than I do.”
21, Minnesota
6.
We’ve been married for almost 11 years, and together 17+ years.
34, USA
7.
GreenMountain85
8.
Localmoco-ghost
9.
I remember wondering ‘what’s the point of calling aside from humiliating and discrediting me?’
52, Maryland
10.
It worked out great for my mom and sisters but for me…never again.”
The_Book-JDP
11.
“I had court-mandated therapy with my dad.
It was during covid, so it was online.
Most of those appointments would end up including his girlfriend who was living with him in my childhood home.
It was a horrible and tumultuous process for me.”
“It wasn’t too bad at first.
The problem with therapy was that I was rarely, if ever, allowed boundaries.
Eventually, I loathed therapy, as it wasn’t for me, it was for my mom.
anonymousHomo9
13.
“Family therapy was pointless.
It was always just my dad involved, never my mom.
When my mom joined, she never listened.
Also, later I’d get in trouble for what I said in therapy.
So to me, it was pointless.”
cindyrosecolon
14.
I mentioned it to them today and they ended up getting very angry.
They told me the following: 1. therapy shouldn’t be a priority.
We don’t have time.
We don’t need therapy.
you’ve got the option to have it, but we’re not going.
Peach_Honey42
