Hundreds of people replied to the thread to share updates on their former bullies.
Some were surprisingly positive, but others were dark, twisted, or just plain absurd.
Here’s what people revealed:
1.
I’d hoped she’d grown.
That was a quick block for me."
u/glitter_elf
2.
“My bully is now a psychologist.
I really want to make an appointment with him and ask him, ‘WHY?’
Does he realize what all the bullying over six years (seventh-twelfth grade) did to me?”
u/SpunkyMonkey2023
3.
“My class bully became a serial killer and has spent the last 45 years in state prison.
u/ZookeepergameOk8231
4. u/waynechriss
5.
“He found Jesus and really does live up to it.
He even stopped me at work one day just to apologize for the person he used to be.
u/Lentra888
6. u/EmbrEclip
7.
“She was my best friend at first.
Then, she and another girl started bullying me.
We were the only three girls in the class, so things like changing for gym class were horrible.
They bullied me at school and outside of school.
They sent hundreds of text messages telling me how everybody hated me and how ugly I was.
They hacked into some of my social media profiles and ridiculed me, too.
She messaged me some years later, asking me how I was.
I told her, ‘Sorry, I am not interested in talking to you.’
She called me very arrogant, stuck up, and told me she did nothing wrong.
u/NoraReddit97
8.
He worked at the high school where my wife is an administrator.
She said he told off a few bullies in his class.
He told them he was that guy and regrets it.
We talked a few times at events and had no hard feelings about the past.
We both moved on.
He never apologized, but he tried to help the next generation be better.
u/cpttimerestraint
9. u/SHOW_ME_UR_KITTY
10.
“They all became cops.
Its absurd how consistent that was.”
u/djc6535
11.
“I came across his Instagram account.
He’s a typical ‘Instagay’ with around 20k followers.
He bullied me for being gay, so that was a plot twist.”
u/Limp_Telephone2280
12.
“One of the school bullies relentlessly bullied me in seventh and eighth grade.
We are still friends 30 years later.
He’s a very kind person who has devoted his life to helping refugees.”
u/KitchenCanadian
13.
“She married a cousin of my husband’s and convinced him to cut contact with his family.”
u/shortstack3000
14.
“He went to prison.
He bullied me through the whole of primary school and even put me in the hospital once.
He was big for his age heavyset and tall.
I was a small girl.
He didn’t like me.
I don’t know why.
I never did anything to him.
I was the only person he consistently picked on.
I was a very sensitive child as well, so he’d always get a reaction usually tears.
It escalated and escalated until, eventually, I ended up in the hospital.”
“We were separated after that incident and put into different classes.
He lived a few streets away from me but never came near me outside of school.
I heard years later that he was serving a long sentence in prison for armed robbery.
I think someone got hurt as a result.
He’s out now and lives at home with his mother.
The dude has aged about 20 years.
I’m 36 now, but he looks mid-50s.
I hope he’s miserable.”
u/Fonnmhar
15.
“My fifth-grade bully ended up as my sister-in-law.
My husband’s mom married her dad when we were all in high school.
Fast forward a couple of decades, her dad dies, and she is completely bereft.
When she bullied me, her dad had just gone to jail.
Now I feel compassion for the hurt 10-year-old who hurt me so long ago.”
u/froglover215
16.
“She runs a women’s-only co-op farm in southern Washington.
I left her on read again, and she responded by saying how disappointed she was in me.”
u/SassyPikachu666
17.
“He was a bully to me in eighth and ninth grade.
We became really close friends during our sophomore year of high school after working through a lot of stuff.
Basically, he was a really insecure kid, and his bullying made him feel more secure.
He moved to Georgia later that year.
We stayed really good friends, mostly through video games.
He ended up dropping out of college, getting into substances, and becoming very depressed.
We’ve stayed in touch into our 30s.
He came to my wedding.
He’s still using substances and is really depressed.
But he’s acknowledged those issues and is trying to do something about them now.
I attempt to support him when I’m able.”
u/MAFIAxMaverick
18.
She talked a lot about how she used to be an insecure bully with extreme body dysmorphia.
It takes a lot to admit all of that, so I wish her well.
It seems like she’s in a way better place.”
u/bountifulselection
19.
“He became a local politician and got indicted for beating up his wife.
He is divorced now and works for his dad’s company overseas.
I’m pretty sure he’s still a bully.”
u/Thoughtcomet
20.
“I saw her again at a school reunion.
She is (now) super enthusiastic and friendly with everyone.
She was so sure of herself that she decided to ask with a smile if there was a problem.
Rest of the night, she just cried her eyes out.
‘I didn’t know you guys suffered so much.
I was just joking!
I am not a bad person.
I don’t remember any of this!’
Blah, blah, blah.
Honestly, it’s a pity.
I’m sorry she realized this so many years later.
u/lolabedelia
21.
“He’s living with and has a child with my sister.
Not awkward at all…
He always says he’s changed, but it’s obvious that he hasn’t.
And he’s never once apologized for anything.”
u/ak09312629
22.
“He’s in jail for 25 to life for being an accomplice to murder.”
u/Aly_in_wonderland
23.
“He messaged me 10 years later to ask me on a date.
I got to tell him I was in a very wonderful relationship.
He said my boyfriend was very lucky to have me and that he regrets what he did and apologized.
Oh, he also said I got really hot.
He stalked my stories on Instagram for a few months and then unfriended me.
I hope he’s doing well now!”
u/extwa_cwispy
24.
She was ‘popular’ in high school and a pretty good athlete.
I accepted it, thinking maybe she had changed and honestly was a decent person now.
Nope, I was wrong.
She messaged me with, ‘Hey girl, I haven’t seen you in forever!’
Blah, blah, blah.
I kindly said no thanks.
But she didn’t get the hint.”
I finally had to block her.
It makes me chuckle because she always judged others for not having brand-new clothes and materialistic things.
u/Fun_Garbage9560
25.
“My buddy was the bully.
High school was like 15 years ago for us, but he messed with many kids during that time.
He grew up to be an outstanding man.
He was actually the best man at my wedding.
His dad passed during the pandemic, so he works hard to take care of his mom and sister.
The kid had quite the character development after high school.”
u/Accurate_Interview10
26.
“He really matured and turned over a new leaf.
He said he wasn’t aware of how he was acting.
We’re on opposite sides of the country, but we text occasionally to check in on each other.
u/trashboattheraccoon
27. u/AutobotJessa
28.
“I was not bullied, but my very sweet, vulnerable best friend was.
It might as well have been me; I went toe to toe with her bully several times.
My BFF was extremely shy, but I was not.
Her bully was actually my neighbor.
Ultimately, we all went away to different colleges.
They moved back home with her parents, he transferred colleges, and she dropped out.
Her parents kicked her out, and her husband moved away.
They decided to break up their respective marriages/families and move in together.
She also became a hypnotherapist.”
“After a few years of this, she had ANOTHER affair with her father’s friend (gross!
), who must’ve been at least 60 at the time.
I believe she was about 24.
That relationship broke up his longtime marriage.
She ended up moving in with him.
The last I heard was a few years ago (we are all about 40 now).
She still lived in our town and bounced from man to man.
She also left a path of destruction, as she’s always had a penchant for seeking married men.
She drifted back into hypnotherapy.
Clearly, she’s had some serious self-esteem issues, though it excuses nothing.
She’s a winner, which always feels right in my mind.”
I used to flip her off on the bus for some reason.
There’s no excuse, and I really have no idea what made me do/say mean things to her.
She didn’t blame me since we were kids, but I knew better.
I regret what I’ve done to her.
u/fossacecak
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
