“I had no idea when I married the loser that everything he said was a lie.”
This inspired members of theBuzzFeed Communitywho have endured similar revelations to open up about their experiences.
Here’s what people shared:
1.
“My ex-husband neglected to tell me that he was more interested in men than women.
When I did find out, I was pregnant and not working due to severe morning sickness.
I wanted to run, but I felt trapped.
More of his lies came out, and we divorced a couple of years later.
Anonymous
2.
I finished my Master’s and divorced him.”
“This guy was pursuing me to no end, even sending flowers to my job.
I finally agreed to marry him.
I never loved him, really.
But I was willing to learn to love him.
Then, he started acting strange when we picked out a house to buy.
I had a VA loan and discovered his name couldn’t be on the deed because of a foreclosure.
His ex-wife still lived in the home and refused to pay mortgage payments.
He was a true loser.”
I found an email in which he complained to her about how rude my children were.
“My husband didn’t tell me he was already married to another man.
At first, I was horrified, but it turns out they are both bi and very into me.
I’m now enjoying two husbands.”
I found out after we were married that there was no money.
He said he had a BS in Sociology when he was actually five classes shy of his degree.
I found this out after being married for 18 years.
It took me 24 years to be rid of him."
“He told me he was divorced.
Then, a week before our wedding, he had to go to court to get his divorce finalized.
I would never have dated a married man.
Then, he had an affair and told his new woman that he and I were already divorced.
The little girl is six months younger than my son.
My son was born in July; she was born in December of the same year.
We also got married in March of that year.
I never had another child by him.”
“My ex didn’t tell me he had a problem with being on the internet.
Needless to say, I divorced him.”
We’re divorced."
“Lying is integral to my soon-to-be ex’s negative value system.
He said he loved me; he didn’t.
He said his grandparents had a small bank account in our name; they didn’t.
He said he had kidney cancer; he didn’t.
He said he didn’t get money from his brother’s estate; he did.
He said he’d take me to Hawaii when I finished my thesis; he didn’t.
I had no idea when I married the loser that everything he said was a lie.”
“This happened in the late 1990s.
She was visibly upset, insisting that she never got any prior notices in the mail.
It got me mad.
I cashed out an investment and paid it off to make the debt collector disappear.
A couple years later, she asked for a divorce and moved out.
That was the least of the eye-opening discoveries I learned about her.
We divorced in March 2000.
Exactly a year later, I met a sweet woman and married her two years later.
We’ve been happily married for 21 years.
Oh yeah, and we both pay our bills on time.”
“Three years after we were married, I found out that my husband is sexually attracted to men.
Instead, he didn’t bat an eye.
When I confronted him, he said, ‘I’m working on that.’
We obviously are not together anymore.”
14.“Wooh!
Where do these folks come from?!?
All his guests knew what was up.
I had no clue and was pregnant really soon after the wedding.
Now it makes sense why he wasn’t thrilled we were pregnant.”
To top it off, he was still married to that person in another country.
He did not think it counted since he permanently left that country.
I only believed him when I saw the legal documents translated and submitted to our local courts."
“My then-boyfriend, now husband, always brought me little gifts and cards.
I was young and he was 10 years older.
I thought it was so sweet and thoughtful.
It definitely was a big reason I fell for him.
It wasn’t until years later that I realized his mom and sister were buying the cards and gifts.
It wasn’t his thoughtfulness at all.”
“I am a physician, and he is a teacher.
I am his third wife.
We are in the process of getting divorced.”
Also, he never owned a vehicle.
I had been driving him everywhere.
He never let me talk to his mom.
He cheated on me, so we are not together anymore."
“My other ex-husband, as it turned out, had never been with another woman before me.
That would be fine, but he told me he had been with three.
Two didn’t have names, but one was named Zoe, and he made up her backstory.
I was with him for eight years, and so many wild stories about him exist.
I’ve been divorced for quite a while.”
awkwardlamp47
19.
This character supposedly was a dental student at USC, and I was naive enough to believe him.
He became physically abusive, but my two children and I were able to escape his lies and abuse.
I recently got a friend request from him on Facebook.
No way in hell would I befriend him."
“We got engaged after 10 glorious days.
A year and a half later, we married.
Then, he casually told me everything he told me when we got together was all lies.
He didn’t know or want me, much less love me.
He just wanted to ‘do’ me but knew I wanted to wait for marriage.
Also, he was homeless because his ex left, and he couldn’t pay the rent.
Many years and kids later, I still feel used.
People think we are so happy, but I feel empty inside.
He had always looked young, so it was easy to pull off.
The day she found out his real age was at the courthouse when they were signing the marriage license.
She would always lovingly retell the story while he looked on embarrassed.”
cute-as-ducks419
22.
“He only married me for a green card.
He was dating other women the whole time we were married.
One of his dates called and clued me in.
Hello, divorce lawyer!”
I was in my early 20s.
He was 10 years older than me, incredibly handsome, and seemed kind.
I asked him if he had plans for the upcoming week.
He said his friend was having a baby, and he was going to see them sometime that week.
It sounded normal enough.
Two years later, we were engaged.
“They were going through a breakup when I met him; the baby was his.
That pregnancy had ended due to a stillbirth the week we met.
I am so relieved to be out of that tough marriage.
The bar now is so incredibly low.
I don’t know if I want to be with anyone again.”
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
