“hey don’t marry someone when you know it’s doomed.
Divorce is far messier than a canceled wedding.”
Here’s what was revealed:
1.
When we started down the aisle, I thought, ‘I can always get a divorce.’
It’s pretty bad when you think of divorce before you say ‘I do.'"
Anonymous
2.
When it came time, he did ram an enormous piece of cake in my face.
It was so large that it covered my entire face.
“I had hisbest friend(female) from out of state for the bachelorette party.
After our parties were over, he spent the night cuddling her.
The following morning, he got up and immediately started drinking again.
My best friend did my hair, and it didn’t turn out as planned.
I showed up with half of my hair fixed.
He immediately went for a beer as soon as the vows were said.
While taking photos, the photographer had to ask him to look at me instead of his friend.
He walked out midway through our wedding dance.”
We did not have sex or even sleep in the same bed that night."
abourque
4.
“I knew my marriage was doomed when he and his sister shared a kiss at our reception.
Mind you, this was not a peck on the cheek.
It was a full-on French kiss with tongues and all.
I was completely disgusted.
I stayed with him for way too long, and his closeness with his sister was always apparent.”
“His mom told me, ‘Thank you for marrying my son.
you might do better, but he can’t.’
She was right.”
I should’ve run while I had the chance.
He consistently chose his friends over me throughout our marriage, even after we had kids."
“We were going to get married in my grandparents’ backyard.
I asked the florist, and they said my ex approved the change.
I called my ex to tell him and asked him to talk to her.
Our marriage would be filled with so much resentment.
I told him the wedding was off and told his mom and sister they needed to leave.
“My now ex-husband didn’t look at me during the vows.
He wouldn’t dance with me at the reception like, actually refused when I asked him.
He spent all of the reception time visiting with friends who had come in from out of town.
He passed out, and I called my mom crying on my wedding night!”
“My father, as he was walking me down the aisle, said, ‘Are you sure?
If you aren’t, life is too short.
I will get you out of here so fast that no one will miss you.’
But 10 years later, I wished I had run when my dad secretly suggested it.
I wanted to run, but good manners got in the way.
I actually knew we were doomed from that point on.”
quirkycadet658
11.
“I was stood up by my ex-wife at the altar while in my military dress uniform.
This was at 8:00 a.m. My whole family showed up.
My brother showed up drunk, and my family left before the cake was cut.
No wedding gifts were given.”
“Our wedding was a disaster.
Our marriage only lasted eight months.
She didn’t work, and she spent all of our money.
She cheated and left.
She wrote me a letter to tell me she cheated and claimed that I couldn’t afford her.”
bitterhouse91
12.
“When he said, ‘I take you to be my awful wedded wife.’
After two and a half years, we three divorced me, him, and his mother.”
God was trying to get through to me, but did I listen?
Of course not!”
slyzebra79
14.
We were divorced in less than a year.
Never let anyone guilt you into doing something you know isn’t right for you.
I chalk it up to being young and naive.
This year would be my 21st wedding anniversary with my second wife.
I made sure I did it right the second time."
artisticdaisy31
15.
Instead of a nice honeymoon weekend, we had our first fight."
sweetjaguar57
16.
I did and very seriously thought about making it a reality."
crunchypizza75
17.
“Frankly, I had the overwhelming urge to run before the ceremony.
I came close and was angry at myself for a long time because I chickened out.
It’s not too late.
People won’t hate you.
If they do, they’re the problem.
kindly don’t marry someone when you know it’s doomed.
Divorce is far messier than a canceled wedding.”
shannonmiz
18.
My mother knew something was up, but I played it off as stress.
I don’t regret getting married, but I should have listened to my instincts.
We grew apart and were on two completely different paths in life.
I hear he is happy now, and I’m happy for him.
This is the happiest I have ever been, so divorce is not always a bad thing."
“Everyone knew we were wrong for each other.
Our relationship started because he stalked me, and I caved into the date.
He never left me alone, so I just gave up.
Our bosses coordinated to deny our leave because they saw the warning signs.
We got married anyway, and everything went wrong on our wedding day.
Even the minister and my mother insisted that marriage wasn’t necessary (biggest red flag!).
The next morning began three years of physical abuse.
I caved under the emotional strain and needed psychiatric care.
I went into a domestic violence shelter, which he used to get primary custody.
koalacat
20.
“I woke up and asked my sister, ‘Tell me again why I’m doing this?’
She said she had no idea.
There were 13 people in attendance.
That should have been a clue.”
“I fell in love with her and her five-month-old daughter.
The night before we were to be married, she ran into the father of her child.
It was apparent to me by her reaction that she was not ready to marry me.
She broke down at the reception and disappeared with her maid of honor for two hours.
We skipped the honeymoon and she didn’t touch me for over a year.
I thought about leaving daily, but I adored her and her daughter.
I couldn’t bring myself to leave.
She told me she had no business marrying me.
I love our daughters, so I can’t say I wish I had never met her.
A broken heart sure does ache, though.”
You got a good one.'
My husband got angry over the comment and accused me of cheating on him with that friend.
The marriage lasted less than three years.”
“I knew I was making a mistake walking down the aisle.
The man I was in love with was 20 years older than me (and my literature professor).
I got two wonderful sons from the marriage, so I don’t regret it.
But I very much resent wasting 15 years of my life pining for another man.
Incidentally, I eventually married that other man 20 years after I fell in love with him.
We were together for 23 years until he passed away.
Those were some of the best years of my life.”
My friend had some Ativan on hand, and I took it.
Walking down the aisle, I saw him crying and began laughing hysterically.
We separated after eight months, and I haven’t seen him since."
He was more concerned with one of my girlfriends.
Her boyfriend drank way too much and passed out on my bed.
My new husband spent the night chatting with her instead of being with me.
I went to bed alone in the guest room.
The fact that the marriage lasted six years was a testament to my patience or stupidity."
“Even before the ceremony, things were going wrong.
My mother was fighting with the photographer.
Our cake started melting.
A couple of people had shown up who HADN’T been invited.
Not one single bit.
This wasn’t a case of nerves or cold feet.
This was full-on DREAD setting in.
I didn’t see a way out.
I found out many years later that he wouldn’t have been.
He just wants me to be happy finally.”
“I met this guy in 1986 through work.
I was 38, and he was 36.
I fell for him hard.
We married in 1987.
I knew he was up to no good through our courtship, but I married him anyway.
Sometimes, love makes you foolish.
He never returned that night, and I spent the honeymoon alone.
Actually, I didn’t see him for two weeks.
I knew I made a bad decision.
I stayed married to him for 21 years.
He made very bad decisions with his life that only affected him, not me.
I had a plan.”
“I finally divorced him in 2007 after he ended up in jail.
Time passed, and I learned that he was a farmer by trade in our marriage.
He was planting his seeds all over town.
He had seven kids with seven different women.
He’s probably a deadbeat father.
I’m certain he never paid child support.
What a total and complete loser.
Anyway, I’m living a great life now with a real man who loves me completely.
He’s the best husband ever and my favorite person.
It’s amazing how life has a plan for all of us.”
“Our wedding day happened during a historic flood in the region.
I was ready on time but told to wait in a separate building until the rain subsided.
My fiance turned and looked at me and said, ‘Well, you certainly didn’t disappoint.’
I thought he meant I looked beautiful.
He saw my expression and said, ‘No, you were late.’
He thought this was funny because I’m always 10-15 minutes late.
I was devastated and realized I was marrying someone who may not really GET me.”
“My husband danced with his ‘friend’ more than me.
“The minister forgot to come to the wedding.
The organist played all of the planned music while his wife called around looking for him.
Then, he didn’t use the preferred vows we had chosen.
The universe was trying to warn me.”
He spent the day partying with his friends.
I spent the day greeting people his parents invited, whom I did not know.
I was exhausted from talking to strangers and went to the hotel room alone.
It was really awkward in the elevator.
A guy looked at me in my wedding dress and asked, ‘You’re alone?’
My husband then stayed at the hotel, partying with his family for an hour.
Sadly, I stayed married to him for almost 20 years.
I should have left sooner.”
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