Reddit userLewis-the-lemonrecentlyasked, “People who divorced after only one year, what happened?”
and the answers were super heartbreaking.
Here’s what people had to say.
NOTE: There are mentions of domestic violence, abortion, and abuse.
I also found out that she was cheating on me as well with someone local."
u/jarisman
2.
“She pressured me to open up the relationship so she could date women.
u/MarvinLazer
3.
“We got pregnant on our honeymoon because my husband accidentally threw my birth control away.
My doctor’s appointment was two weeks away, and he wouldn’t use protection.
Fast forward several months, and he was screwing our neighbor because I ‘got fat.'”
u/Present_Way_4318
4.
Cool, cool, cool.”
u/-SuzieCreamCheese
5.
“One night she came home from shopping.
I kissed her hello.
It was a rather innocent peck on the lips.
She tasted strongly of semen.
We were together for a decade but married for six months.”
u/Happy1327
6.
The first night, I invited my friend and her brother over.
After about 45 minutes, I heard the garage door open…it was my husband, LIVID.
I could barely wait for him to join me in our new home.
But then…the last weekend of October is the social event of the season, the Halloween Loop.
We ran into my husband and his friends.
They were not unfriendly to me, but it was a little awkward.
I packed a bag, optimistic that I was going home.
But he, a human ice cube, said we were getting divorced and never speaking again.
I was so confused.
What about the dates, the apartment?
He said that was before he caught me on a date on the Halloween Loop.
u/Warm_metal_revival
7.
“I got divorced after only one year.
As soon as we got married, he started pressuring me to have a kid.
I wasn’t going to do that, so I called it quits.
He thought I would change my mind.”
u/California_Sun1112
8.
He spent $650 on MJ that month instead of helping his wife.
“He would always trade one addiction for another and drove under the influence.
I was not okay with that.
I’m much happier knowing I’ll never have to deal with that kind of behavior again.
I even became a licensed peer support specialist to try and help him.
Instead, I used what I learned to build myself up and develop the confidence to leave.”
u/Inevitable-Ability-5
9.
“I call it my starter marriage.
He grossly misrepresented who he was.
He was willing to move mountains for us until we were us.
Then he turned controlling to the point where he changed how my keys were on my keychain.
This was back when all cars and homes had keys.
His gift-giving went from diamond earrings before marriage to a muffler in the box after marriage.
The muffler is part of car maintenance; its not a birthday gift.
If he does that to an animal, what will he do to a tiny human?
I left at seven months.
We didnt even make it a year.”
u/FinanciallySecure9
10. u/LabExpensive4764
11.
I wanted to leave my toxic job.
He quit his job within two weeks of marrying.
He stayed unemployed for a couple of months and wrote fanfiction.
He started amping up his paranoia about me cheating.
He stopped letting me go with him to see our friends.
Another was driving dangerously because he was upset that someone liked the newStar Warsmovies.
I told him that I wanted a divorce about six months in.
I had no other place to go.
He kept me from sleeping for two days until I relented."
“He threatened to ruin my life.
At that point, a switch flipped.
I decided that I could pretend to be happy for a few months while making an escape plan.
I still lost a lot of friends over it all.”
u/Rabbitbanana89
12.
“My ex was abusive, mentally, and verbally abusive.
He was also very controlling and tried to cut me off from my family.
That was Christmas Day 2002.
I left him that day and never looked back.”
u/Austins_Mom
13.
He topped it off by hitting me (the first and last time).
You only get to do that once."
u/BlueCanary1993
14.
“I found out everything I knew about my husband was a lie.
I thought he had a job; he did not.
Then, other things slowly came to light.
u/No_Investment9639
15.
“She cheated on me a week after we got married, and she didn’t tell me.
Then a week later she texted me that she wanted a divorce and I haven’t seen her since.
u/jtowndtk
16.
“I was married at 20.
We had been together since we were 13 and friends since age six.
We were more than just high school sweethearts.
Five months after being married, I got pregnant, and he wanted me to get an abortion.
I refused to do so, and he didnt like that.
So he started causing an argument every day.
“I got sick of this after three months and left to spend a few days with my sister.
I took the chance.
One month later, six months pregnant, he got home late from hanging out with a friend.
It was hell to get me out, but we did.
We went to the ER and all was fine, thankfully.
Eight years later, I have a beautiful, almost 8-year-old boy.
I haven’t talked to him since court.
My mom gave him the divorce papers.
We went into court to deal with parental stuff, and ever since then, he’s been MIA.
I’m thankful I ended up finding my husband now, and he’s the best dad.
Moral of the story: Never think you know someone.”
u/livelovedreamcreate
17. u/hedpe70
18.
“The first sign happened our first night home from the honeymoon.
He all but ignored me unless he had a work function for me to attend.
I grew my first hints of self-respect during that year and decided I was worth more.”
u/mustbethedragon
19.
“He lost his job and became paranoid that I, who was working, was cheating.
All of this took place maybe three months after we got married.
We weren’t married much longer after that.”
u/izzysgirl_77
20.
“I was with her for ten years.
I knew she had bipolar disorder and had been hospitalized before.
She had been on her medication our entire relationship.
After getting married, she said she felt ‘safe’ to go off her meds.
I didn’t like the idea, but her doctor went along with it and weaned her off.
She left to join an evangelical megachurch.
We had been married for almost exactly 11 months when we separated.
The divorce was finalized last month.”
u/skip6235
21.
“We had been dating for a while.
Both our families were pressuring us to make it official.
So, eventually, we caved.
She is lovely, but she wasnt MY partner.
She was a fantastic partner for someone else.
I did find my person later on, and weve been happy for over two decades.
But we had extra steps thanks to family pressure.”
u/BellwetherValentine
22.
“Looking back, we were already on the verge of an abusive relationship.
Once we got married, he’d always say … ‘You knew who you chose to marry.’
I.e., ‘I want to move back to my hometown, and you know who you married.’
The reasoning the other way around didn’t hold up for him, obviously.
I left after four months.
He was convinced I wouldn’t leave once the papers were signed and everything escalated.
He was wrong.”
u/irislatifolia
23. u/MyLife-is-a-diceRoll
24.
“We dated for three years before getting married.
After getting married, everything changed and became more real.
Although we were compatible, we would hold each other back from our future plans.
It’s been 30+ years.
I still talk to him well, as much as you do on social media.
I would never be able to live the life he leads now and be happy.
He would never be able to live the way I live now and be happy.
It was inevitable that we would divorce.
u/Theunpolitical
25.
“I really suspect he only married me to go on the honeymoon.
Shortly after we got married, he developed an allergy.
To what, I don’t know, but I know it was real.
He was unable to work due to his allergy.
He had to take medicine.
Then, he was diagnosed with COPD.
He started taking medicine for that and was feeling better.
I started talking about him going back to work, and suddenly, he was sick again.
He confessed, right before Christmas, that he had stopped taking the medicine due to finances.”
“His mother was a huge issue in our relationship.
Prior to marriage, I thought we were on the same page.
Whenever his mom treated me badly, he would acknowledge that her behavior was wrong.
I would work all day, come home, and no household chores would be done.
He would leave as soon as I got home to go to the store to get food for dinner.
Thinking someone was trying to call him, I looked at his phone.
I found out he had been texting and messaging other women.
I told him I wanted to go to marriage counseling in November of that year.
I looked at his phone, and he was talking badly about me to his female friends.
I waited until after Christmas to tell him I wanted a divorce.
We were divorced almost a year to the day after we were married.
I met a great guy right after my divorce was finalized.
I don’t have any contact with my ex-husband, and I’m not sorry.
u/springsummerfall2016
26.
“We got married in June; she filed for divorce in December.
We got married due to us having a surprise child.
We were not compatible, but I didnt fight it.
I was averaging 3-4 hours of sleep (mostly on lunch breaks) and wasnt there for my kid.
That was 16 years ago.
One of the best days of my life was getting divorced.”
u/El_Jefe_Lebowski
27.
“I was 19 and she was 18.
She became pregnant, and her family was very conservative.
It was basically a shotgun wedding.
Neither of us had much in the way of life skills.
We barely knew each other.
I also had some undiagnosed mental, neurological, and physical problems.
We were living below poverty, and I was too proud to ask for ‘handouts.’
While I was never abusive, I was definitely negligent of her emotions and needs.
I was too in my own head trying to figure out what was wrong with me.
It took a long time, but I’ve been able to apologize to her.
We’re not what I would call amazing friends, but we get along.
I was an asshole.”
u/TVSKS
28.
My family talked me out of leaving that day.
I started planning my exit and left in month five.”
u/Apprehensive-Log8333
29.
“We were both really young and didnt even have driver’s licenses.
I was pregnant, which is why we were allowed to marry without parental permission.
I quickly matured and was working three jobs.
He laid on his ass and acted like a 16-year-old who wasnt married with a kid.
I told him that I and the baby were going to visit my mom.
He took me to the bus stop, and I never looked back.”
u/Scared-Brain2722
30.
“We were married for six months.
I married the wrong person.
He was a nice enough guy, and we had been friends since high school.
We were together romantically for four years and had been together since I was 22.
I felt at the time that getting married was what I was ‘supposed’ to do at that point.
I have no feelings about it or him.
It was essentially like having a glorified roommate.
There was no passion, no spark at all at any point, really.
I’m glad I divorced after six months rather than forcing it for 20 years.”
u/DishonestFerret
31.
“She was addicted to prescription drugs.
u/Keveros
32.
“She went out for girls’ night and met a new friend named Nicole at a bar.
She started texting her a lot and then going to hang out now and then.
His real name was Wesley.”
u/Annual_Target_6664
33.
“We were married four months.
It was the only time I ever cheated on someone, and I still regret it wholeheartedly.
I could have just ended it, but I was so immature.
So we got married, and I moved across the country to live with him.
Saturdays were spent with his friends.
Sundays were spent with his family.
We never had one-on-one time.
Sex was spare and terrible.
I got introduced to one of their buddies.
We would play and talk for hours and really hit it off.
My husband found my chats one day while I slept.
I didn’t even deny it.
I just bought a ticket to fly home.
I ended up paying for the divorce, which is fair.”
I met with him to get his signature in front of a notary.
We sent it to the court from there.
He and I went to get lunch together after that.
We admitted we both weren’t ready and were glad to end on amicable terms.
u/DiscontentDonut
34. u/ithilienisforlovers
35.
The signs were all there, and I just overlooked them.
We were divorced after six weeks.”
Her parents were addicted to drugs and abusive.
He offered her parents money if they signed a marriage agreement for her at 16.
Nothing went wrong; that had been the plan the whole time.
No idea where they are now.”
u/0rangeMarmalade
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