“This is why you dont get engaged to someone you only dated for a month.”
Here are 34 more heartbreaking and shocking stories about people who got divorced super soon after getting married.
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*Along withsome responsesfrom theoriginal Reddit thread.
NOTE: There are mentions of domestic abuse, child abuse, and miscarriage in this post.
“Two weeks after we got married, she said to either get her pregnant or it was over.
It was annulled eight weeks later.”
u/tjones1755
2.
I walked inside and tossed him right out."
u/SpicyMcdickin
3.
He was cheating on me with a 21-year-old gas station attendant at his work.
I finally caught them at a motel, just like the movies.
He then kicked our son and me out of the house and moved the girlfriend into the marital home.
Before we got married, we’d been together for seven years."
u/always_albina
4.
“We started dating when I was 16 and he was 18.
We broke up a couple of times.
He was incredibly controlling, and I was incredibly insecure.
I lasted the semester and moved home.”
“He was extremely verbally abusive.
Then, our families were pushing for an engagement.
We got married, moved into an apartment, and promptly got kicked out because he refused to work.
We had to move in with my parents.
He said he was completely fine living with my parents and didn’t want to move out.
I moved in with a friend, and he had me followed for months until the divorce was final.
He had taken credit cards out in my name that I didn’t know about.
And I was almost never allowed to hang out with friends.
It was the best decision I ever made.
I haven’t spoken to him since.
I am now married to the love of my life.”
Anonymous
5.
“We met at work and dated for over a year.
I was divorced and had primary custody of a 2-year-old daughter.
I said, ‘WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?”
He said, ‘She should be seen and not heard unless spoken to.
She needs to be quiet!’
Nobody treats my children with disrespect.
Ten of those were waiting for a court date.
My daughter is now 27 years old and has just graduated from law school."
I’ll never wrap my head around it.
And those lies were just the tip of the iceberg."
u/mtsandalwood
7.
He was mad I didn’t do everything just right when he was doing nothing.
Then, the day I left, I found out about all the affairs going on.
Including sleeping with my boss at the time."
u/peoriagrace
8.
“Not me, but an acquaintance.
His wife sat him down the day they came back from their honeymoon.
Apparently, she had met someone at work some months before, and flirting ensued.
He is a good sport about it and takes solace in knowing it was all her.
Married a wonderful lady later and has a gaggle of kids.
Ex-wife and random dude dated for a while but did not stay together.”
u/Analgerman
9.
“I began dating Mr X after I accepted a job in a neighboring state.
We traded off on weekends, driving to each other’s homes.
He proposed over the intercom of a commercial air flight while we were taking a trip.
Say it’s crucial that you think about it or outright say, ‘Not at this time!'”
“Well, I planned a small wedding in a mansion.
The night before the wedding, he accused me of cheating.
When I got back from my honeymoon, we were both arrested for crimes he had been committing.
Three weeks later, I had the marriage annulled based on fraud.
When push came to shove, he blamed me, so I served time also.
It ruined the next decade of my life.
I rose above it all and found the love of my life ten years later.
No matter how smart you are, people who lie well can convince anyone of anything.
Just watch the news!”
She made no effort to integrate or learn the language and generally ended up isolated.
One day, my cousin went to work and came home to an empty house.
She told him they were done from the airport.
It was brutal."
u/FallingSky1686
11.
My wife went with her parents for a long weekend at the beach to ‘think about everything.'"
Sure enough, she said she wanted a divorce, so I said okay.
We talked for about an hour, and then she left to see her parents.
Three days later, she came back and tried as hard as she could to initiate sex.
I had never seen her try so hard.
I rejected her and reminded her what I had told her.
She cried and asked if I could yo let her take it back and go low-contact with her mom.
I told her no, and she needed to leave.
She sat in her car for an hour crying but eventually left.
I never saw her one-on-one again.
She is remarried with three kids in another state.
I’m married with two."
u/Fun_Diver_3885
12.
“Not me, but my friend.
He pulled the plug after ten months.
She … kept her place and never moved in with him.
She screamed at him constantly.
This is why you dont get engaged to someone you only dated for a month.”
u/snerdie
13.
It sent my ex-wife into a depression, and she started drinking heavily.
She started being harsh, and verbally and physically abusing me.
We were living, I would say, more middle class to meet her standards as well.
This happened right after we got married.
After a year, I met someone else while still in the marriage."
“I didn’t know how to escape, and I just couldn’t think straight.
I’ve never been in that condition in my life, and someone was there for me.
Fast forward to today, I’m diagnosed with mild depression and severe anxiety.
Her son still sees his biological father, and my ex-wife doesn’t recognize any of this happened.
[She thinks] I’m the reason our marriage failed because I left her for another person.
I divorced her after a year and a half.
u/Prestigious-Bid6680
14.
“I had a coworker who got married to her college boyfriend.
They came back from their Caribbean honeymoon and a month later told us she was pregnant.
I found out later that day that she was indeed pregnant but by another guy.
A guy who would bartend our office parties a couple of times a year.
Apparently, they were having sex through her entire engagement and one month of marriage.
She ended up getting a divorce and trying to make it work with the bartender.
Let’s just say it was weird at the next couple of office parties.
They didn’t seem too happy together.”
u/CBus-Eagle
15.
“It was always an emotionally draining and abusive relationship that got worse with time.
He elbowed me in the face!!!
WHO hits someone when theyreASLEEP???
Apparently, your face has a lot of capillaries.
I don’t think anyone was fooled.
Thankfully, he truly was a coward, and nothing else transpired.
My dog and I had another wonderful 11 years together until she passed last October.
Its still painful, but I would do all of that again to have her from the start.
Truly good men dont spend a year pretending and trying to convince others theyre good.”
u/Skryuska
16. u/jagger129
17.
“I had a cousin who married a real piece of work.
The family reunion has been kicked out and banned from multiple venues.
My cousin shows up with her fiance one year, and he’s an absolute shithead.
She married him anyway because she didn’t understand that was him on his best behavior.
They lasted less than a year.
She won’t talk about it, but the rumor was she found out he did meth.”
u/Pavlock
18.
“I discovered on our wedding night that my wife … abhorred sex.
I tried to be as patient and sensitive to her fears and inhibitions as possible.
I left nine months after the wedding.
Long version: I had almost canceled the wedding but convinced myself I was just getting cold feet.
He was angry and judgemental all the time.
He moved us into his mom’s house until he found work.
I was still studying at the time.
Nothing was good enough for him.
Everybody was too dumb; every job was beneath him.
His mom found him a job through a friend of hers.
He said that he’d rather become homeless than do a job he didn’t want.
His brother asked, ‘What about your wife?
You’re married now.’
He said, ‘Oh, she’ll follow.'”
“I made him go to therapy and moved back to a bigger city where I could find work.
He decided he wanted to go work in Canada.
I asked for a break to figure things out.
It was nine months after the wedding.
He wasn’t supportive of anything I did.
He read a couple of chapters and said, ‘None of the characters are like me.’
He caused conflict with his family and mine.
He blamed it on me.
He made my life miserable, and I accepted it because I had my own trauma.
I ran straight into another terrible relationship with another angry man after that and lost another nine years.
I have now removed angry people from my life altogether.”
u/ReadingSavedMyLife
20.
“He left me for a woman who he worked with two months after the wedding.
We had to wait for the year mark to apply for a divorce.”
u/kellyj95
21.
“I’d previously married my college boyfriend when I was a month shy of 23.
We split shortly after I turned 25.
So, I was extremely pessimistic about relationships and had vowed never to get married again.
I had some short-term stuff and was casually dating for a couple of years.
Right after I turned 30 in 2021, I met this guy at a pizza place in mid-September.”
“He was good-looking, charismatic, and a smooth talker.
We hooked up a couple of days later, and he just never left.
At first, he was sweet and fun.
(He’s addicted to drugs and a felon.
I’d never been in trouble.)
I was ashamed and didn’t want to admit how bad things were.
My family was NOT happy.
Things got worse, but I was even more ashamed at that point because I’d taken him back.
I figured I deserved it all.
Over the ten months we were together, police were called at least 15 times.
I’m still dealing with that whole mess.)
He maxed out all of my credit cards and stole $10k of my student loan money for gambling.
I still have to declare bankruptcy for the $50k+ of debt, plus the loans.
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
When the divorce was finalized on May 4, 2023, I celebrated hard and cried harder.
I’m for sure never getting married again.
I’ll never be able to trust anyone that much.”
“We got married, and he lived on base in the barracks.
I couldn’t get on base until I got my military ID card.
He disappeared for three days with no texting, calling, or contact of any kind.
He said he just played video games.
After that, he started getting abusive and trying to isolate me from my family.
One night, he drank too much, got nasty, and started pushing me around.
I called the cops and had him arrested.
Divorce was filed right after that.
u/Liz4984
23.
I moved out six weeks ago.”
u/Key_Tomato_7683
24.
“She cheated on our wedding night.
She was also emotionally abusive.
… She wanted to be non-monogamous, and I didnt.
“They went to the bathroom together and made out.
It wasn’t the worst case of cheating ever, but it was bad enough for me.”
u/funky_salami
25.
“My cousin got divorced after six months.
The guy stole $50,000 from her dad and was a complete douche on multiple levels.”
u/melrosec07
26.
I had no clue until after we split up.
He told me that such behavior was ‘normal.’
I ended it as soon as I realized that he’d done a 180. u/Alternative-Cry-3517
27.
“Not me, but a friend got married in December 2019…then COVID hit.
She realized they were on complete opposite ends of the spectrum in pretty much every way.
She wanted to honor lockdowns, and he thought it was all a hoax.
This was also around the time that society started letting their racism show.
Guess who was also a closet racist?
So yeah, she noped right out of there.”
u/dvan1231
28.
“My uncle … got fired from his job and never told his wife.
He cashed out his 401k so he could fake still having an income.
He usually went to his mother’s house and hung out there all day.
But eventually, he got caught when his wife followed him after he left their house.
He went by the store before heading to his mom’s.
He said yes, he was.
And the rest is history.”
u/MattyDub24
29.
“My ex ‘found out’ through tarot that I was cheating on her.
We both worked from home.”
u/twnknmy
30.
He went all Pikachu Face when he received the divorce papers.”
u/Stuebirken
31.
“My ex got diagnosed with a chronic illness two months after we got married.
He, out of left field, kicked me out of the house after four months of marriage.
“The longer story is that he lied pretty much through our whole relationship five plus years.
He went from loving, optimistic, and charismatic to rude, narcissistic, and aggressive.
His ex-best friend pointed out that our house was decorated the way HE wanted it.
He also got super jealous when I got a new job and was making a lot more than him.
I was a total dummy to all out until it was too late.
I had a life-changing moment when I was at an art market that had a Tarot reader.
Their illness is not their fault, but it is their responsibility.’
I blamed myself a lot for how and why everything went down.
That reader was also incredibly blunt with me, which is what I needed at the time.
That 1-hour reading was better than the years of therapy I’d had to deal with the situation.
I’m doing better.
u/MetaverseLiz
32.
“We married just after I (then 20F) graduated college and got a good job.
He (then 20M) had one semester of college left before graduating.
He quit halfway through that semester and neglected to tell me for two months.
I was working two jobs to support us until he got his degree and a good job.
We were together for nine months.”
u/idealmelissa
33.
They started talking, and two months later, she was asking for a divorce.
u/ShapeWitty9121
34.And finally…“We were honeymooning in Hawaii.
I told her, ‘Your cousin is here; should we meet up with her?’
‘Oh, fuck my cousin.’
In hindsight, I see that she meant it literally.”
u/crazy-diam0nd
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