“When she asked her friend to flirt with me to test me.”

A recent Redditthreadasked people, “What moment made you realize your girlfriend/boyfriend would never be your wife/husband?”

and the responses are eye-opening.

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Here is what some people shared:

1.

“He couldn’t handle any serious conversation.

He’d joke around or change the subject whenever I brought up the future.

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It made me realize he wasn’t in it for the long haul.”

u/Perfect_ladybabe122

3.

“She lied badly about money and how much debt she was in.

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u/Cyanora

5.

“When she asked her friend to flirt with me to test me.”

u/Nelson4ay59

6.

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“When they openly admitted they didnt believe in compromise or teamwork in relationships.

Thats a big red flag for me.”

“She told me I was being selfish for wanting to go to the gym and work out.

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u/CraniumCrash12

8.

“He would prioritize other people before me.

He would say the right things and knew how to apologize, but his actions didnt reflect his words.

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He hid some of his habits from me…He was not financially responsible.

Our sex life was bad.

I was not making him happy, either.”

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u/IcySetting2024

9.

“He wanted a stay-at-home wife, but without protection in case we split.

I will not lose my financial independence for anyone.

Too many horror stories.

He married, and his wife got screwed years later.”

Yeah I make enough to support us, but l am not going to support another grown adult.

We were a gay couple, for reference.”

u/Samisoy001

11.

I’m very career-oriented and want to grow my career.

So then I said, ‘Why are we dating then?’

She couldn’t answer that, so we broke up.”

u/030117

13.

“When he randomly said to me one day, ‘You have to win me over again.’

I decided not to try.”

u/ThrowRARAw

15.

“I held on for a long time with someone who I knew I wouldn’t end up with.

Religious and philosophical differences.

Grew up very differently and we clashed too much.

u/Tight-Big5827

16.

“I paid for us to go away on holiday for her birthday.

She paid for one activity that I hadn’t planned for and was a spur-of-the-moment thing.

She flatly refused because she’d paid for the impromptu activity.

There was no discussion, no query, just a flat no.

I couldn’t help but see her differently after that.

We didn’t last more than another year after that.”

17.And finally, “We were looking at rings.

There were so many other red flags, but that was just the one that slapped me awake.”