“Refusal or inability to compromise is a ginormous red flag …
Here are the insightful results:
Note: Some responses were pulled fromthisReddit thread byu/Gnerdyandthisone byZorra_.
prettyp
2.
While differing opinions are natural and can foster constructive dialog, addressing them upfront is essential.”
bkahline
3. heinzybaby
4.
The test was surprisingly accurate, at least for my husband and me.
ladicair
5.
“I work in oncology, and relationships are greatly impacted when someone gets a diagnosis of cancer.
Cancer, and illness in general, is more common as we age.
42, New Jersey
6.
“I’m a marriage and family therapist.
46, New Orleans
7.
“Attachment styles and communication should be discussed.
Family culture needs to be a conversation as well.”
31, Kentucky
8.
“Become acquainted with your style of communication in conflict.
(A distancer).
lindseye4b857e2e1
9.
“Hands down, parenting.
Educate yourselves on different parenting styles and find one you both want to practice.
Be sure youre talking about things to the last detail.
Talk to a therapist if you want support in facilitating these discussions.
Signed, an LMFT.”
10."[Boundaries.]
Allowing families/friends to get too involved in the relationship.
Remember the saying, ‘Too many cooks spoil the broth?’
Yeah, exactly this.”
u/Being_grateful
11.“Compromise.
Refusal or inability to compromise is a ginormous red flag one that, I believe, is empirically validated.
u/captain_ohagen
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“A lot of people don’t think of this: actuallytalkingabout sex, not just having it.
Do you enjoy the sex you have?
Would you like to have more of it?
Would you like to se it change?
Do you or the other person have any weird kinks?
Just have the talk.
Different sexual wavelengths can be difficult to reconcile.”
Anonymous
13.
Rescue attempts are often little jokes or olive branches to help overcome issues and arguments.”
u/KaptainKompost
14.“Talk.
A credit score can cost thousands and take YEARS to rebuild.
Know if they have any tax liens or liability.
Are they paying child support and do they have any kind of garnishment?
Who is going to be responsible for managing the finances?
How many credit cards does the other person have and what are their balances?
I’ve seen money kill a lot of marriages.”
And finally…
15.
“‘What happens if this all falls apart?’
But that’s why it’s the best time to make contingency plans.
“It’s the kindest and most loving thing you could do for partner or for yourself.”
violetbaudelairegt
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
