Note: This post contains mentions of abuse.
And, boy, did they deliver some wisdom.
So, we gathered some of the most helpful answers below.
Anonymous, 55, Virginia, Psychotherapist
2.
“Inability to regulate emotions.
If your partner cant regulate their own emotions, they dont have the tools to do so.
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Anonymous, 30, New York, Clinical Psychologist
4.
“A grown person with no close friends.”
Treasure Wilde, 40, Michigan, Therapist
5.
“Three main points of a relationship are BCE: Boundaries, Expectations, and Communications.
Ignoring individual needs so you can maintain status quo will only work for so long.
7.“1.
Poor conflict resolution skills.
They always blame the other person or you, and take zero accountability.
They never apologize or never apologize unless prompted to.
They have explosive rage.
They do not ask for what they want or need but instead get angry and resentful later.
They may even act out later.
This includes respecting your boundaries.”
madisonschumacher
9.
“When a man casually puts his hand over the front of your neck.
This is a major sign that he may violate you physically at some point.
Similarly, men that grab you by your wrist to have you follow them somewhere.
10.“Possessiveness.
Be careful, and be firm!
Its okay to say, ‘No, I have other plans.’
A healthy partner will understand that and give you space.”
Showering you with a ton of affection, gifts, time, excessive validation.
Or, it can be more insidious allowing them to engage in sneaky or abusive behaviors.
Think of it as adult grooming.
If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
Love bombers play on our naive hope to find the perfect partner.”
Max, 33, Utah, Therapist
12.
“Pay attention to how the relationship started.
cheated on their previous S.O.
with you, they will cheat on you as well.
I’m not just talking cheating in the physical way.
I’m talking emotionally as well.
Of course, there are always exceptions, but they are very few and far between.”
“If he is unavailable on a regular schedule.
So, if you only see him Tuesday to Friday, he may be in another relationship.
His family seems a bit cool toward you and not really interested in you.
Jamie, 59, Montana, Psychologist
14.
“Pushing their wants on you to the point of making you responsible for their happiness.
“When a partner uses attacking language at any point in the relationship.
When you disagree, the goal is to talk through the issue, not argue.
Indicates an unwillingness to listen, lack of empathy, and poor emotional regulation.”
Mike, 44, Ohio, Social Worker
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