You certainly won’t find them faking orgasms anytime soon.
Sex therapists are experts in a wide range of bedroom matters.
They can also help folks explore their sexuality, fantasies, kinks and non-monogamous relationship structures.
Based on their years of professional experience, we asked these sexperts what they personally avoid in the bedroom.
Heres what we learned.
I would never try something new without a partners consent.
I would never fake an orgasm.
Our culture is very results focused, even and especially when it comes to sex.
In fact, refusing to fake orgasms is a boundary shes set for herself.
Less pressure equals more fun.
I dont police my partners sexual fantasies.
After all, fantasies are a natural part of our sexuality, she noted.
And its good to keep in mind thatnot everyone is interested in acting out the scenarios in their imagination.
I would never shame my partner for what theyre into.
Causing someone to experience shame will undo their sense of safety.
You cannot experience true sexual freedom if you are being shamed, she said.
Nor would I shame myself for letting my mind wander during sex.
As a sex therapist, Hellstrom doesnt beat herself up for occasionally engaging in mental fantasies during sex.
This also allows me to gently return my attention to the present moment when Im ready to do so.
Less shame equals more fun!
I dont blame myself for a partners erection issues.
Moali doesnt assume that her partners erectile issues are her fault unless that has been communicated to her.
Lets foster a supportive environment!
I dont avoid uncomfortable conversations about sex.
Sure, these conversations arent always easy to have, but theyre integral to a satisfying sex life.
Its essential to discuss what brings pleasure and address any obstacles openly and compassionately, she said.
This fosters a positive cycle of connection, thereby enhancing sexual intimacy.This article originally appeared onHuffPost.
