Let’s just say they can tella lotabout the dynamics at your table.
But youre not the only one taking in your surroundings.
Restaurant servers are also likely sizing you up and figuring out what kind of dining guest youll be.
They observe how you respond when they introduce themselves.
When your server first comes by your table, are you scowling at the menu with your arms crossed?
Do you stop what youre doing and listen to them?
They can tell a lot about the dynamics at your table.
Is it two friends?
Is it a date?
Another very telling observation for servers: how you treat others at your table.
They notice entitlement by the way you order.
Asking for substitutions and to split the check are usually acceptable.
But requests like these should be logical, Cardosa explained.
For example, asking to substitute an inexpensive ingredient with an expensive one is probably not going to happen.
You cant just say, I dont want tomatoes, but can I get shrimp instead, he said.
Its definitely an upcharge.
These types of over-the-top requests can make you come off as entitled or inconsiderate of the waitstaff.
They pick up on it if you have poor time management.
Theres that saying, Your lack of time management is not my problem.
… That is how I feel about people who are in a rush, Cardosa said.
You knew the show was at 8 oclock.
Working at a restaurant is literally the most tiring job … people want to go home.
They CANT judge how youll treat them based on your appearance.
[Ive learned to] never judge a book by its cover, she said.
It could be thebest bookthat youve read.
The most important thing servers pay attention to: Are you treating them with respect?
We always had this … Im a server, not your servant mindset, Anderson said.
