I literally cannot imagine sincerely asking my friends to pay $3,000 a person for a bachelorette party.
More specifically,I asked themfor the wildest, most out-of-pocket requests brides asked of them.
“She had her bridal shower at the medical spa she frequented.
The shower turned into consultations for myself and the other bridesmaids.
“She was having her wedding during the beginning of the pandemic.
Anonymous
3.
“It was one of my best friend’s weddings.
She didnt have that many friends, so it was only me and one other girl as bridesmaids.
She asked us to hand-make ALL her decorations for the wedding.
I put in 15 hours a week making decorations.
Then, she planned a weeklong bachelorette party out of town and asked us to foot the bill.
This doesn’t even include the cost of our outfits.
She picked matching designer dresses and asked us to pay for them.
“I just felt largely taken advantage of and unappreciated.
It all makes me very reluctant to agree to be in someones wedding again.”
u/SpectralShifter
4.
I am plus-size and 6 feet tall, so the bride took me dress shopping.
The bride said all the bridesmaids could just wear flats as well.
The ceremony was on grass, so that made sense.
The dress wasn’t great, but it fit/was long enough, so I went with it.”
The bride’s sisters were also wearing cocktail dresses and heels.
floatingtheskies
5.
“I was a bridesmaid for a friend from college.
We spent three months planning her bridal shower she was not at all involved.
She planned a $25,000 weekend in Vegas.
‘Youre my bridesmaids; youre kind of supposed to pay for my bridal shower!'”
“I didnt have that kind of money at the time and told her so.
Same with five of the other bridesmaids (the other two were her sisters).
So, she and her sisters had the bridal party on their own.
She told me there weren’t enough redheads, so she was thinking I could be a redhead.
I didnt contact her again after that.
She reached out to me to ask how to return my gift for store credit.
I never replied.”
u/ligamentary
6.
She had us order semi-expensive dresses, and they HAD to be altered to a certain length.
Shoes had to be ordered.
Toenails had to be painted a neutral color, and fingernails had to be French manicured.
We werent allowed to paint our own nails we HAD to get them done at a salon.
Hair HAD to be done professionally by her hairstylist.
And we were not, under any circumstance, to have bikini tan lines visible.
Mind you, this was right after summer.
I would be happy to do my hair and makeup.
My hair was so short I couldnt do an updo.
She told me her mom could pay, and then I could pay her back.
That was the final straw.”
“I sent an email to her telling her I could no longer be in her wedding.
She was pregnant, about to get hitched, and now I was adding to her list of problems.
I valued the friendship and told her such, but I just couldnt do what she was asking.
After that I didn’t hear from her for YEARS.
Until one day, she sent me a message asking for me to buy from her MLM campaign.”
She never told us this beforehand, so I didn’t know to wait to cut my hair.
padawanryan
8.
They tied in giant bows in the back, and we all looked like literal infants.”
u/gabygygax
9.
The soon-to-be bride got engaged shortly following my ectopic.
I was so shocked I just declined and have never spoken to her since."
u/MommaBearJam
10.
This was something we discussed multiple times.
Needless to say, I did not attend."
thomistrans
11.
“I was a junior bridesmaid for my cousin’s wedding.
So, my mom got my ears pierced.
The wedding came around, and my hair was styled down, so you couldnt see my ears anyway.
I was a few weeks shy of when I could safely change my earrings, but we tried anyway.
Unfortunately, mom couldnt get them out, and my ears started bleeding.
So, I walked down the aisle with my diamond starter studs, and my cousin never even noticed.
klg8109
12.
Plus, she had already chosen a cake that cost $476.00!
“My best friend from high school was getting married and asked me to be a bridesmaid.
Everything was going well until we had to pick out bridesmaid dresses.
I was the only plus-sized person out of the four bridesmaids.
The bride just waved off my concerns, saying that I could get a dress made.
I felt so shitty after that.
I spent the wedding dashing about, getting photos, and she didnt even thank me.
Needless to say, I havent talked to her in years now.”
I was delighted at first.
I was and am very organized, so I took my assignment seriously and with enjoyment.
I was clueless and speechless I thought a MOH was supposed to help organize.
She and the groom have long since divorced.”
The bride still insisted on outdoor photos without coats ‘because we cant hide the dresses!’
Everyone, including the photographer, told her hell no.
She pitched a fit when we refused to do more than one quick photo.
To this day, she still complains about how her bridesmaids ruined her wedding."
u/Hexagogo
16.
That should have been a giant red flag in itself.
I didn’t exactly agree 100%, but we arranged to meet up and talk.
How much is tattoo removal?’
My jaw hit the floor.
I didn’t think she was serious, but she was adamant that I look ‘normal.’
The wedding didn’t even happen she had been cheating on the groom for about a year."
witchyribbon84
17.
It was not her first marriage, so no one else would do it.
I coordinated her bachelorette party, too.
She never talked to me about it or explained anything; she just acted like nothing happened at all.
I was shocked and left right after all the pictures were done."
“I was the maid of honor for my friend a few years ago.
She had asked me to plan a bachelorette weekend for 16(!)
people already but initially said she didn’t want a bridal shower.
A couple of weeks later, she sent me a list of 35 people to invite.
I couldn’t believe that she heard ‘let’s keep it small’ and translated that to 35 people.
“My friend was getting married for the fourth time.
However, they didn’t have the money for that.
She didn’t hire anyone for her wedding we bridesmaids did it all.
We also had to help cook, pan, and set up all serving stations for the food.
Well…if you might’t afford to have it your way, you probably shouldn’t.”
It was horribly uncomfortable for many of us in the bridal party, since thebreakupwas kind of messy.
Walking down the aisle in front of mutual friends and family was not an option.
Fortunately, they switched our partnering the day before the wedding.”
Sure, lady, whatever that means.
The bride called and asked me to bow out.
The bride understood and it wasn’t brought up again.
I didn’t speak to her after that, nor did I want to.
I still wonder who wound up paying for that dress.
It certainly wasn’t me."
No stress, I thought.
How dare I put my job in front of her wedding?!
Why didn’t I tell her this beforehand?
I totally did, and I had the text messages to prove it.
She tried really hard to get me to leave and even told me to fake being sick.
I was the only one she was mad at, though.
Apparently, somehow,Ihad managed to prevent her entire wedding party from leaving work early with no notice.
I don’t miss that friendship."
I thought it was an honor until I received my to-do list.
I was not only supposed to throw her a wedding shower but also to foot the entire bill myself.
I didn’t even get a thank you, and she received some very nice gifts.
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