“He just wants his household manager, housekeeper, and free in-home childcare back.
He is sad because the divorce made life harder for him.”
I know I’m not getting it.
Me and my ex-wife have a 14-month-old son.
After he was born our marriage fell apart," he said.
We argued a lot and I ended up telling her that her life would be harder without me.
She got really quiet and I thought that was the end of the argument.
It made things fall apart and we are getting divorced."
Now, “We’re living separately; each got a new apartment.
“It is automatic unless one parent proves neglect on the part of the other.
We usually switch on Mondays with the daycare pickup and drop-off.”
This is where I realize how badly I fucked up because I’m drowning.
My apartment is a mess and I can hardly keep up with errands and chores.
But she doesn’t want to.”
“I know I messed up and should have been a better husband.
I can’t even ask for less time with my son because I can’t afford the child support.
I hate myself for fucking up so much.
Wtf did I do?”
userFit-Humor-5022posed after reading the post.
JoBeWritingresponded in agreement: “That’s what stood out to me too,” they said.
“He doesn’t even regret it because he realizes how truly wrong he is.
“His stupid ass thought she couldn’t manage without him?”
“She already was, which is why she was fine when he left.
Now he’s realized how much she actually does.
He wasn’t contributing anything, except stress.”
And the weaponized incompetence of it all is what stings the most.
“‘She expected me to know what to do without telling me,'” userthrowawayadvice12emocked.
“Do you think women are given some special handbook on children and household care??
Why do some people act so incompetent?
Even though he’s struggling to keep up on his own now, he does KNOW what to do.
So, he did know what to do all along.
In sad conclusion:
“For so many women divorce is a blessing.
You lose about 180-200lbs of dead weight and a man baby,” userfancyandfabsaid.
