My mom would even say, ‘What the hell do you have to be so upset about?’
So Redditoru/Bigbumoffhappyasked, “What is a thing that your parentsconsider normalthat you don’t anymore?”
Here’s what people said, including members of theBuzzFeed Community.
“Not showing affection or saying I love you.
Years ago, my brother was admitted to the hospital.
We didnt know what was wrong with him, which was scary.
I had been crying, and my dad was very upset, too.
As we were walking out of the hospital together, I went to reach for his hand.
I thought it would be comforting, a sign that I would be there for him.
He ripped his hand away from mine so fast.
I was stunned and never tried to do that ever again.”
“The idea that a college degree is everything.
Sure, it’s important, but degrees are generally extremely specific nowadays.
My degree would never even get me an interview in many fields.”
u/MoonieNine
3.
It’s still so nice to be able to disconnect from everything and be unavailable.
I don’t think kids today know how to do that."
“Just ‘getting a job’ by walking in anywhere.
u/KnuckledeepinUrethra
5.
“Not talking about any negativeemotions.
They could handle me being happy, but anytime I was sad, upset, depressed?
Nope, they didn’t want to see it or deal with it.
My mom would even say, ‘What the hell do you have to be so upset about?'”
“Being at least four hours early to the airport.
I think everyone can relate here.”
u/Active_Substance_991
8.
“Showing blind obedience towards elders and authorities.
I don’t want a boss who judges me for visiting my father in a hospital.
u/Bigbumoffhappy
9.
“Checking the newspaper for everything from weather and movies to TV and job listings.
They have phones, but using Google to search for these things is a bridge too far.”
“How utterly unsupervised we were as little children.
u/Shapoopadoopie
11.
“There was SPF 2 and 4.
And to get a tan, women rubbed themselves down with baby oil.”
“Drinking and driving.
My friends’ parents would pick me up with a scotch on the rocks!
And ashtrays full of smokes!”
u/Sauceysunshine
13.
“Traveling for pleasure used to be practiced only by the upper class.
It was WAY too expensive for the majority of families in the United States.
And those families ‘had it good.’
“I always feel compelled to answer the phone when it rings.
In fact, I just got my Dad to stop doing this.
I assured him they would call back if it were an actual caller or an emergency.
He’s much happier now.”
“Thinking you’re ‘supposed’ to raise your kids the same way you were raised.
I don’t get the reasoning behind that.
My parents so often said, ‘Well, that’s the way I was raised.’
Yeah, so maybe it’s time to do things differently.”
u/InfernalOrgasm
16.
“Smoking in restaurants.
Made the concept of everybody being in the same room anyway worse.”
“Corporal punishment for children.
I thought it was ‘normal’ for most of my childhood.”
u/fhgrfhBOBBOBBY356424
18.
“Downplaying mental health.
When I asked for counseling, I was told I didn’t need it.”
In other words, not setting healthy boundaries.
This stopped with me.”
u/Birdywoman4
20.
“Up until 1974, a woman could only get a credit card under her husbands name.”
21.“Racism.
My parents are in their 70s and definitely from a ‘different time.’
God, I hate that excuse.”
u/Cuppojoe
22.
Apparently, it was common to dress nicely for simple things like going to the dentist.”
“Going to work when you’re sick, and just basically putting work first at all times.”
