“I put an AirTag in her car to track where she was when she was late.”
Here’s what went down:
“Not long ago, I was engaged.
My girlfriend seemed like someone you could build a life with.

She was beautiful, intelligent, admired, and respected by everyone who knew her.
She always had good ideas and instincts when it came to making money.”
After two years together, I proposed, and we planned to get married in Bali in 2025."

“In March of this year, I noticed something off about her behaviour.
She started coming home 4-5 hours late, often with excuses that didn’t add up.
She had always been well-groomed, but these changes seemed excessive, like something only models and stars do.

I felt uneasy, and the feeling wouldnt go away.”
I drove like a madman until I found her car and waited for her to return."
“After several hours, she came out of a house with a man.

They kissed passionately as they left.
Despite my anger, I remained calm and decided to talk to her when we got home.
I let her leave first so she wouldnt see me and then headed home myself.”

“When I got home, I found her in the kitchen making dinner.
Although I was furious during the drive, I managed to stay calm during our confrontation.
“She had started a relationship with that guy.

Together, they used stolen credit cards to fund her ‘model’ accounts and split the profits.”
“At my insistence, she showed me her OnlyFans and other accounts.
After that, I quietly went to the couch and fell asleep.”

I didnt tell her anything.
I pretended to be upset but passive, and she believed me.
“Now I want to ask you all: Am I the asshole in this situation?

Should I feel guilty for contacting the police and the FBI?”
F*ck scammers of any kind.
Scammers stole all my dad’s retirement fund.

They all deserve to rot.”
Thank you for doing the right thing.
Ex-fiancee saying you ruined her life is ruined is inconsiderate towards victims of stolen credit card info."

u/PuddleLilacAgain
“NTA at all.
She made her bed.
Blaming you means she is taking no accountability for ripping people off (or cheating on you).

I hope they throw the book at her.
you should probably take care of yourself now and rebuild your life without her in it.”
u/Away-Understanding34
But some think OPisthe A-hole:
“YTA.

Sounds like she got turned out by a scammer/Romeo pimp and you called the FBI on her.”
u/nooksorcrannies
“Snitching is never right.
YTA for snitching.”

u/LowRazzmatazz666
And then there are others who think that everybody sucks here:
“ESH.
‘We had a nice perfect relationship she was the love of my life.
So I put an Apple AirTag on her car.’

Neither of you are sane people, although I guess she’s worse since she’s a criminal.
But clearly the crime was mostly led by the guy.
u/theringsofthedragon
“ESH is my take.

She sucks way, way more, but OP sucks for being a stalker.”
u/Oakfrontdoor
My take?
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