“This advice kept me in a bad marriage far longer than I should have stayed.”
We all know those age-old sayings and pieces of advice we live by from a young age.
Well, redditoru/Angel_for_urecently asked ther/AskRedditcommunity to share thewidely accepted piece of advicethey find to be terrible.
Here are just a few of those that people no longer follow.
“‘Don’t go to bed angry.’
Yes, do that.
It’s better than arguing when you’re tired and irritable.
Most things look better in the morning.”
“‘Never give up.’
Sometimes, if something isn’t working, you oughta let go.”
u/BuildingBridges23
u/canbritam
3.
“‘When there’s a bully, just ignore them.’
Sorry, but most bullies won’t stop just because you ignore them.
Sometimes you gotta put them in their place.”
“‘Don’t be afraid to do what you love, and the money will follow.’
This can be true, but it also could get you in a lot of trouble.”
u/Curly_Balls
5.
“‘Tough it out.’
Do not tough it out.
Talk about it, take breaks, have a meal, and think it over.
If you are sick, toughing it out won’t fix that.
If you are depressed, toughing it out won’t fix that.
If you are hurt, toughing it out won’t fix that.
Take care of yourself and then keep going, or you’ll run yourself into the ground.”
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me for giving you the chance."
But I don’t think you should always have to forgive.
There are occasions when someone hurt you too much and has no remorse over it.
Why forgive someone like that?
If you could, I think you are admirable, but if you could’t, I completely understand.
You’re only human, after all."
u/Lvcivs2311
7.
“‘Find a job you love and you will never work a day in your life.’
This might work for 1% of people.
It makes the rest of us feel like we’re doing it wrong.”
The sad thing is that life can hurt you so bad that you wont be the same anymore."
u/Puppyway_836488
9.
“‘Stay for the kids/avoid a broken home.’
Stop fucking your kids up and admit you hate each other.
you could be AMAZING co-parents and never see each other face-to-face.
Two STABLE homes are far happier than one in turmoil.”
“‘Give 100% in everything.’
Give enough to get it done at a decent level.
The extra effort usually doesn’t pay off.”
I feel healthier knowing there’s another gear I can use if I have to."
u/cavejohnsonlemons
11.
“‘When you grow up, you’ll understand.’
Bruh, I’m 24 now, and I don’t understand shit.”
“‘If she says NO, pursue her harder.’
WORST dating advice.”
u/kaesekrebs
13.
“That blood (as in family) is enough to connect you with someone.
I really dont feel close at all with most of my extended family.
My family is Mexican, so they put a high value on blood.
“‘Kill them with kindness.’
Ive dealt with enough bullies in my life to stand up to people who start drama on the regular.
I appreciate the same candidness from my friends.”
u/Ok_Alternative_4643
15.
“‘Fake it till you make it.’
Faking anything doesn’t make anyone feel better.”
“‘Treat people how you want to be treated.’
You’ll be taken advantage of.
Instead, I treat people the way they treat me.”
u/Ok_Weird_5216
17.
“‘It doesn’t hurt to ask.’
It can absolutely hurt to ask.
“‘Ask for forgiveness, not permission.’
So shockingly obvious how this could backfire in any number of personal or professional scenarios.”
u/withextrasprinkles
19.
‘“Trust your gut.’
I have anxiety; my gut is virtually always telling me to panic and never do anything.”
“‘Just be yourself.’
The spirit of this, I agree with completely.
But so many people think it means to act however they want without consequences.
Just being yourself means living in accordance with your own values and pursuing your own goals.
u/Abject-Star-4881
21.
Listen, not everyone can be filled with self-love.
It can take years to learn this.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
