“That’s amazing,” one commenter wrote.

“It’s a great alternative so she is still part of the party and also safe.

I love the idea.

A woman with shoulder-length hair speaks to the camera, holding a mug. Text reads: "My daughter would love to celebrate your child's birthday but she's not able to do sleepovers"

How do you handle sleepovers in your family?

She considered her daughter’s “emotional maturity and did not think she was ready.”

And you’re gonna be one of those friends who goes home and sleeps in her own bed.

Woman holding a mug, speaking with text: "some friends are gonna stay the night and sleep there" and "and some friends are gonna go home and sleep in their own bed"

“The idea for taking her back in the morning is so good!”

“Her being upset about missing the fun of the morning after would make things extra hard.”

“That’s amazing.

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It’s a great alternative so she is still part of the party and also safe.

I love the idea.

But their independence will serve them so much better than their safety ever will.”

Comment that reads "The idea for taking her back in the morning is so good! Her being upset about missing the fun of the morning after would make things extra hard"

“Validating doesn’t mean that you agree that they should get their way,” Fagell said.

“It just means that you understand, and you empathize.”

Not everybody views sleepovers the same way.

Comment that reads, "That's amazing. It's a great alternative so she is still part of the party and also safe. I love the idea. Thank you."

That doesn’t make that peer less than.

As her daughter gets older, Leann will continue to evaluate sleepover invitations.

It’s for your health.')”

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Comment that reads "It's important to balance safety with independence and kids. But their independence will serve them so much better than their safety ever will."

Four women, names unknown, sit on a couch under blankets, eating popcorn and watching TV. Two hold drinks, and all appear to be smiling and enjoying themselves

Four women are sitting on the floor of a bedroom, laughing and applying makeup on each other