I’m ready to devour a third helping of drama.
This story starts off pretty normally, and the parent,u/doglover233520even compliments their sister’s cooking.
Theysaid in their post, “Yesterday, my sister hosted a family dinner at her house.
It was one of those ‘just because’ dinners, no special occasion.
My sister is a great cook, and she made tons of food for that one night.”
But then, the evening took a turn.
“My daughter was on her second plate by the end of the night.
Once she finished she asked if she could get another one.
My daughter turned around and gave me a somewhat uncomfortable look.”
At this point, the parent was a bit taken aback.
“I turned to my sister and said, ‘She’s been working all day without anything to eat.
You made tons of food; it won’t hurt for her to get another plate.’
But I’m not sure about the plate thing.
So, am I the a-hole for assuming my daughter could get another plate?”
UserSea_Estate8909thought the parent was in the right.
They said, “Your sister has some anger issues, and you were right to leave.
I probably would have left the second that she said something to my kid.
I would get some distance and let her cool off.
Maybe she was just having a crazy bad day or something.”
Others likeu/IntrovertedGiraffewere surprised that anyone wouldn’t graciously host their own family members for dinner.
“A part of it is probably internalized misogyny.
People will call hungry male teens a ‘growing boy’ but forget growing girls exist!!
Not your house, not your food.
I also dont understand why youre not making sure your 16-year-old gets 3 meals a day.
And userCent1234agreed that the parent was the asshole in the situation, as well.
“You’re awfully free with other people’s time, money, and labor.
Your daughter should have asked her, the hostess.
You were the one doing the disrespecting.”
UserAnonyCasssaid, “This is crazy; she might have gotten a couple of small plates.
It’s disgusting behavior to shame her for this.
Even though its her first meal of the day, its still too much!'
And dont think its ok OP; kindly verify your daughter isnt affected by this.”
Every family meal Ive been to is like:Dinner will be ready at 5:00.
Have some snacks while youre waiting.Foods ready.
Theres plenty for everyone.Do you want more?Did you get dessert?Take some home with you!
If I were her I would write off my extended family and live my life in peace.
Life is too short to put up with crap like that.
In my family (German heritage) the host is thrilled if somebody goes back for seconds and thirds.
More importantly, I wonder how that affected your daughter and how she will see her aunt going forward.
I feel so sad for the daughter.
The aunt and the grandmother are terrible humans and they should be ashamed of themselves.
What kind of woman makes a scene about a teenager getting more food?
I wonder if that extra plate was worth shaming her niece and putting a splinter in her relationships?
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