“My parents were confused as to why we were moving their stuff into the garage.
I told them that was where they were staying.”
So you know about the famous r/AmItheAssholesubreddit.
My kids are grown up and I’m a widow.
“My parents have recently asked me if they can move in with me.
And they actually had already arranged a hotel for one family so we would not be crowded.
My parents were confused as to why we were moving their stuff into the garage.
I told them that was where they were staying,” they continued.
The spare bedroom is mostly for my mutts.
They said that they wanted to live in the house, not out in the garage like Fonzie.
I said it was a take-it-or-leave-it situation.
If they didn’t want the garage, they could move into a nursing home or something.
They are upset that they are living RENT-FREE in a private guesthouse that is fully up to code."
People had a lottttt of different thoughts on the situation.
Some readers said no, NTA (not the A-hole).
Some said definitely, YTA (you’re the A-hole).
Others voted ESH (everyone sucks here), and few said NAH (no A-hole here).
For the most part, readers seemed to side with the original poster.
“Wow, your parents are spoiled.
A rent-free, up-to-code apartment sounds pretty sweet.
If it isnt good enough for them, then they can make other arrangements.
But if you let them into your main house, it will become their house.
And you wont be able to get away from them.
Her parents are currently living there, and they dont have a problem with it.
They like the privacy, and they like being close to their child.”
u/Snoo-53572
“They wanted into the main house for you to be their cook, maid, and carer.
In the guesthouse, they have to fend for themselves.”
u/No_Noise_5733
Others faulted both of them.
“ESH for not clarifying all this information before moving.”
u/Careless-Ability-748
“Why would they not know this before they showed up with their stuff?
Regardless, communication matters.
Somehow you told the kids more than the people moving in.”
u/cyrfuckedmymum
Some said they were absolutely the one in the wrong.
“I guess Im going against the grain, but YTA.
Its also understandable that they might feel like outsiders.
I would give anything to my parents, and its not only about moving in with you rent-free.
Youre making them look like moochers.
Not for the offer but for a complete and utter failure to communicate.
It’s your house.
FIVE bedrooms, and your PARENTS can’t have one?
Why don’t you make the garage space your client meeting space?”
u/becamico
But then people also defended them and the parents.
u/mxzf
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