It’s never easy when a loved one dies.

And work problems are the last thing anyone wants to deal with while grieving.

‘Condolence money,’ they call it.

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So, Pine just used annual leave to mourn at home with their family.

This didn’t sit well with Pine, and they chose not to contribute.

In the end, I stood firm, saying I will not give any money.

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AITA for not giving any money?"

As you’re free to imagine, there were a ton of responses for this one.

Many people thought Pine was not the A-hole:

“NTA.

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Why does the whole department know?

Isn’t there a confidentiality clause at your work?

I think this is bullying if it continues beyond one incident.”

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No one should be guilt-tripped for not giving or not giving ‘enough.’

And ‘form of prayer?’

Religion should not be practiced in your workplace.

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Proof should not be required for coworkers to show compassion and generosity.

You are NTA for not donating.

Your workplace is TA for shaming you for not donating."

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u/cat-lover76

Others thought everyone sucks here:

“ESH.

Sending money just seems kind of crass.

How much money would one normally get anyway?

I cant imagine it touching funeral expenses.

I think its a crappy practice to begin with.

And now youre following it up with pettiness?

u/Issyswe

“ESH, you more than HR.

They shouldn’t have confronted you about not donating, as that is unprofessional.

u/RohanWarden

But many thought Pine was the A-hole:

“YTA.

They needed proof of a death, which you did not provide.

Now you act bitter because a colleague could actually supply a death certificate.

u/Evilmushys666

“Gently, YTA.

You chose to use annual leave instead.

Where I am, a business must be careful with money collections in case of fraud.

u/happybanana134

Note: Responses were edited for length and/or clarity.