“To heck with tradition!”
We arent married and I havent been with him long enough to know if it could land in marriage.
He and his family are pressuring me and making me second guess myself.
Its a pride and tradition thing, but none of this is traditional."
I respect his views, but they arent mine."
If anything happens, he could very well just walk away and leave you as a single mom.
chaserscarlet
“I am so tired of this male bullshit.
The dad has an orgasm.
The mom spends a hard nine months making a child.
The child is born.
Stand your ground.”
then yes, you do owe him some level of authority and decision making.
Youre in a relationship with this man.
He wasnt a little one night stand who fled after he found out you were pregnant.
Youre being selfish."
You are committing a huge betrayal against your daughter."
u/FarlerFive
“Its perfectly reasonable to give YOUR baby YOUR last name.
I really wish I had gotten my moms last name, or even a hyphenated name.”
Hes now a long distance dad that contributes almost nothing and saw her once in an entire year.
I have sole custody of her and she doesnt even share my last name.
I’m gutted that I was conned into traditionalism by the patriarchy."
u/Ill_Cat2052
“To heck with tradition!
u/jbarneswilson
I also have personal experience with this that I’d like to share.
My mom had two daughters (including me hello!)
with a man who shewasmarried to but divorced soon after I was born.
He went off to start his own life apart from us while we still carried on his last name.
What a great legacy!
I decided to keep a deadbeat’s last name so I could stay connected to my kids.”
It was never a simple process.
u/Peaceful_Stranger
“The (pretended) tradition is that couples don’t have sex until they’re married.
So we already know he’s only ‘traditional’ when it suits him.”
Is that really a tradition worth fighting for?
Women have much more of a reason to deny it than men have to defend it.
“The tradition comes from ownership of women.
It’s not one to be respected.”
Especially when this tradition is extremely rooted in sexism.
It makes you wonder why more men donttake their wife’s last name."
