She [was] pre-law while I was doing animation.
She graduated top of our class and went to a T20 law school.
She works very long hours, soI take care of most of the household things.
I’ve mostly been letting it go, but every single time, it bothers me.
Then they both laughed.
It was humiliating."
“Bella refuses to apologize.
I feel like she doesn’t fully appreciate my value as her husband.
I’ve stopped doing the chores until she apologizes and she is beyond pissed off.”
I don’t even know anymore.
Am I the asshole?"
There were a ton of reactions to Top’s post, and readers were split.
“Darling, you are a househusband.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with thator being a housewife,” userRogueDILsaid.
“Why do you believe that it is a put down or emasculating?
Its an equal contribution to your family and household.
It permits your wife to work longer hours at her job, without trying to also maintain the household.
If you’re truly unhappy in that role, do something about it.
Look for work in your chosen field or consider returning to earn new qualifications.
You’re the asshole for getting upset about a factually correct statement.”
“You’re the asshole,” userSingle_Cookie_7915agreed.
Is there some latent misogyny peaking through?
“You must think that it makes you ‘lesser,’ but why?…
Do you think less of the women who do that job?
Why is it OK for them to make that sacrifice but shameful for you?
You ARE a househusband.
But to reduce your spouse to just their position, rather than a person, is demeaning.”
“Tone is important,” userKayCeeBayBeeepressed.
Its like referring to your wife as ‘my housewife’ instead of ‘my wife.'"
“I wouldn’t have married her if she was that kind of malicious person.
“Use your fucking words.
When you asked her to stop, she said she would.
She isn’t gonna know you’re upset unless you say something,” userCsdkjdskjconcluded.
Note: Some responses have been edited for clarity.
