“He still won’t admit that he tightened the lids on purpose.
He suggested we go to marriage counseling, but I refused.
There is no point.”
He’d tighten them so much I couldn’t open them without assistance."
“It’s been a recurring cycle over the past five years.
Then, it would get better for a while, and then it would slowly become an issue again.
It was just getting worse and worse until I reached a breaking point again.
Sometimes, I literally feel insane for being so upset over jar lids.”
“He initially claimed that he did it to ‘keep food fresh’.
I’ll just replace things that go bad because they are closed normally.
Then the excuse was that ‘it’s a habit.'”
(Now here’s where the story takes a HARD left turn.)
The first day he’s gone, I discover a jar I can’t open.
“I said wait here and got the jar, which he opened.
The next day, I saw him outside and asked him to open another jar.
He offered to come open all the jars.
“He said you know this was intentional.
“After he left, I locked the door, sat on my kitchen floor, and cried.
Then, I felt hot and lightheaded.
I vomited in the trash can.
It crossed my mind that I might be having a heart attack.
I thought about calling an ambulance but sat back on my kitchen floor instead.”
He said he broke the jar, trying to get it open.
He also apologized for what he said about my husband doing it on purpose.
I assured him it was okay.”
“I couldn’t sleep that night.
Tossed and turned all night.
I called out of work.
He was absolutely blindsided when he came home, and I told him I wanted a divorce.”
“He still won’t admit that he tightened the lids on purpose.
He suggested we go to marriage counseling, but I refused.
There is no point.
I just literally can’t get past the god damned jar lids.
I still feel a little bit crazy about that.
I have no idea why he would tighten every jar lid so tightly that I couldn’t open it.
He has given me no reason.
He still won’t even admit that he did it on purpose.
But the hot pepper paste is in the back of the fridge.
I use it only when I make Indian food.
It’s behind other things.
He’s never used it.
It’s nothing you could put in food without cooking it.
The pepper paste could not have been an accident.
“That’s what my life comes down to.
I’m getting a divorce because the lid of my hot pepper paste was over-tightened.
If it had been every jar except that one, I could try.
I could have a sliver of doubt.
I could do something else, but I just can’t get past the hot pepper paste.
Most of our friends and families either think I’m crazy or an asshole.
What do you think?”
“Not the asshole.
Too tired, just didn’t hear them.
When the younger kid was 3, the ex told me he’d lied!
‘I knew you’d get up!
Of course, I heard every time.’
Divorced him six months later,” userluckyartiewrote.
Other users completely disagreed and felt the original poster was being a “narcissist.”
“OP should buy a lid-gripper and go to counseling to get her narcissism under control.
She could go on Amazon and buy a jar opener, but she opted for divorce,” userOwn-Tank5998.
