You are using your generosity to control your parents' actions."

But her brother is actually a scholarship student who receives a stipend in London.

“So I reduced the amount I give them by $200,” she explained.

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“Obviously, they do not need it if they can afford to give it away every month.

My mom called me when she noticed and was yelling at me for being a crappy daughter and sister.

Just so you know, the answer is $0.

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They also tried to talk me out of attending university in Canada.

She went off about it.”

“She said that I am treating them like children by restricting how they spend their money.

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I replied that I was not going to subsidize my brother through them.

And that from now on, the amount they got from me would be $1,100.

OP’s brother called to complain about “cutting off his money.”

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Then they would have my money to live off of and their wages to pay for his drinking.”

As you might imagine, there were tons of responses for this one!

Most people said that OP is not the A-hole:

“NTA.

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You send them upwards of $1,000 every month just so they can retire and not have to work.

Good on you for doing that.

Your parents should be grateful that you are helping them out.

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Their son is their problem, not yours.

This actually come across as taking advantage of your generosity.”

Your parents are lucky and should be grateful to have your financial support.

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u/jaywild

And many called out her brother:

“Has your brother no shame at all?

u/Tal_Tos_72

“The part where he called her up to complain was astonishing.”

u/UCgirl

“The spoiled brother had the audacity to say ‘HIS MONEY.’

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I know a lot of people are probably thinking, ‘But it’s not their money!

It’s her money!’

You are using your generosity to control your parents' actions.

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That’s not fair to them.

It doesn’t sound like they have a history of poor financial choices that might warrant an intervention.

u/RemarkablePuzzle257

“I’m Asian, and I’d say ESH.

If they knew she would be auditing their finances, they might have declined and kept working.

And it’s not clear that the brother is definitely using all $200 to get drunk.

She doesn’t explain what he said in response to that accusation.

I find that unrealistic.

How’s he doing in school?

If he’s studying in London and doesn’t have rich parents, he’s probably not a dummy.

OP should consider being more encouraging and supportive.

This episode isn’t helping.”

u/village-idiot-888

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