No one can decide who’s naughty and who’s nice in this argument.
These elevated emotions might lead to decking the halls…with disaster.
“He hasnt evenmentionedanything about [putting up the tree] as a family.
I grabbed the tree and put it away.
Am I the asshole for putting the tree away?”
What’s up with putting up the tree yourself?
When he objected to you doing it, you TOOK IT DOWN AND PUT IT AWAY?!
What did that fix?"
u/JadieJang
“I don’t know why you couldn’t just say, ‘Sorry!
I didn’t know!’
What is wrong with people these days?
No one apologizes for anything even when it’s simple and would end the conflict.
So much drama and need to be ‘right.’
You’re the asshole for escalating something so ridiculous.”
u/lower-cantaloupe3274
“You’re the asshole for being so childish about it.
You couldn’t acknowledge his feelings and instead pulled the whole thing down again.
u/Kore624
Sure, her intentions were kind.
She wanted to do something sentimental to surprise her family.
People areextremelydivided about who’s in the wrong here.
On what planet does that make her an asshole?!”
u/BenzeneBabe
“Your husband sounds ridiculously immature.
Also, your child is only one.
They are not going to remember any of this.
Tell your husband to grow up.”
Maybe there’s something else going on and he’s using the tree as something to focus on?
It could be as simple as stress from having an infant, because the first year is tough!
Could you have responded better?
But, when you’re pushed and pushed and pushed, people snap.
It’s emotional manipulation."
crap_whats_not_taken
Yeah, her partner definitely didn’t handle the situation phenomenally.
Is scoffing and yellingreallywhat the holidays are all about?
Or even a healthy way to communicate with your partner any day of the year?
I don’t think so!
One possibility is thateveryonemishandled the situation:
“Everyone sucks here.
I worry for the child to have such immature parents.”
Communication is key to resolving conflicts."
u/Key-Minute-2255
“I kinda feel like everyone sucks here (except the baby).
u/GoTGeekMichelle
My take: Each of them are “wrong” in their own way.
No one communicated in a healthy manner from the very start and everyone got hurt.
Hopefully they are able to work on their communication skills to avoid situations becoming this escalated in the future!
