“I told him his personality is dishonest and he failed my test of being a decent person.”

“I went on a date with a guy, who I met through a dating app.

“He said he is a tradesman and I asked what kind.

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He seemed to hesitate for half a second, and then said carpenter.”

Carpentry is such an interesting topic so I was genuinely curious.

But he fumbled and kind of tried to change the topic, which I was not having.”

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So he has to be cautious and made up a ‘low-paying job’ as a test."

We have no evidence that he really is a high earning man.

But you do have evidence that he is a liar."

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u/grayblue_grrl

“NTA, this dude has baggage you probably don’t need to be dealing with.”

I went on a date with a similar guy and he was fucking insufferable.

A good carpenter can make bank, and it is not easy physically OR mentally.

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u/altarwisebyowllight

But there are also some users who think OPisthe A-hole:

“YTA.

Guys venture to convince them to ‘invest’, and women start flirting hard.

Even normal non-wealthy guys I know complain about women angling for free drinks and free cover and free meals.

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u/No-Dependent963

“YTA for overreacting like that.

Dude was probably taken for a ride because of his money before and is trying to be cautious.”

u/Medium_Conclusion417

“Yes, YTA.

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The first date isnt when you disclose every personal detail of your life.

I would agree that you are incompatible, and a second date might not be a good idea.”

u/lacajuntiger

My take?

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It’s normal and acceptable to ask someone what their job is on the first date.

On a first date, that’s the impression you want to give?

I think that says everything, looks like OP dodged a huge red flag.

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