“My exit from the marriage was shortly afterward.”
People of both theBuzzFeed CommunityandRedditshared the moment they knew their marriage was sadly over.
Here is what they shared:
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
“We got married and immediately moved to Atlanta because of his job.
Neither of us had family there but I figured we would support each other.
First I got sick at work and couldn’t drive myself home.
I called him and he refused to come get me.
Next, he began to tell me that I wasn’t his jot down.”
crispytortoise14
3.
We werent working [as a couple].
Im not angry that she didnt love me.
But fuck, just tell me.
Dont do me dirty like that after 13 years."
u/Winsdaddy
4.
I looked to see how much we had saved and saw the empty account.
On top of that, she maxed out her credit card.
All the while, she had never even had a full-time job."
“I got married.
Went on a honeymoon in China.
We were both PhD students at the time.
I was working class.
Her family was middle class.
Her father gave her $10,000 for the honeymoon.
I spent the entire two months alone in tiny hostels while she did research.
I opened the laptop one morning before she left to go survey a field site without me.
Her email is open.
She left a message on the laptop.
Its to her father, stating she wishes I wasnt there on the trip our honeymoon.
Again, I was told this would be a honeymoon with maybe a slight detour for research.
It turned out to be a research trip where I was a burden.
We stayed together for a few more years after she got sick and I became a caretaker.
I wish, in hindsight, I had left China after reading that email.”
u/Mtt76812
6.
“I had no idea how he felt about me.
Almost nine years together.
He didn’t propose, I did.
He didn’t tell his family when we married.
They found out online.
He never shared his energy or emotions with me.
I didn’t know if he thought I was cool, funny or interesting, or smart.
I would share my thoughts, interests, and humor with him.
I’d get nothing in return.
I realized it had always been this way.
I felt unseen, unheard.
I felt like I was boring and uninteresting.
I didn’t feel special.
I just wanted to feel some sort of connection.
I wanted our souls to meet.
He seemed incapable.”
He said he owned me, and I had to do whatever he wanted.
We divorced after two years.
goldentortoise378
8.
“I realized this on my wedding day.
We were married at her parents' house, a beautiful place in a private country club.
I stayed busy visiting with all the guests during the day.
I picked her up and carried her to our car to take her home.
Needless to say, our wedding night consisted of her sleeping it off.
u/metrology84
9.
“Both my parents had a disability.
To help out daily, I moved them to the city where my wife and I were working.
My exit from the marriage was shortly afterward.”
“One day I realized I had become a smaller version of myself.”
u/mlerin
11.
“I got married on our daughter’s first birthday at the courthouse.
He returned to his mom’s house right after the ceremony.
He proceeded to the mall with his cousin.
Two hours later, I got a call.
He gave this lady his phone number.
She was returning his call.
He told her he was single.
Sometimes, kids need one parent to thrive.”
He only did things for how he would appear to others.”
u/100thusername
13.
So I told her no more.
She fought me on it but finally agreed.
Wedding day comes, Im standing with my groomsmen, and in comes the ice cream truck.
I knew right then, sadly."
“I traveled for my job, and my wife was very jealous.
No matter how hard I tried to convince her I would be faithful, she didnt trust me.
She would call the hotel I was staying in late at night to ensure I was alone.
We tried three different counselors, but she didnt like anything they had to say.
emoglue89
15.
“My mother passed away suddenly.
I was a student nurse at the time and found her.
I tried unsuccessfully to resuscitate her.
It was the worst moment of my life I was beyond broken.
I went through months of being numb and on autopilot.
After her funeral, I immediately started getting my ducks in a row to move out.
He has been married twice since, and he has faced karma.”
savoryfan742
16.
“When I got her to admit she was having an affair.
Ten years married, two kids.
