“We’ve been married for over 30 years, and our sex life has only gotten better.”

so many couples provided their thoughts and habits.

Here are some of their answers:

1.

A man and woman share a close moment in a dimly lit bar. The woman, in a sheer dress, leans in to whisper in the ear of the man, who smiles while holding a drink

“This sounds dumb or obvious to some, but make sex an all-day thing.

“We roleplay fictional characters and I don’t mean just sexually, either.

We roleplay them going on dates.

Two people embrace intimately while sitting on a bed in a well-lit room

The drama between the other characters we play and the huge overarching plot lines are great.

The sex is just part of it.

It keeps things fresh.

A woman joyfully poses, wearing a matching bra and high-waisted underwear set. Her long, curly hair is flowing with her movement, reflecting confidence and happiness

We never left the honeymoon phase, and we’ve been together for 12 years this year.”

u/LowRexx

3.

Honest conversations when you hit a dry spell and how to reconnect after it.

An older couple smiling while dancing in a modern kitchen, surrounded by fresh fruits and vegetables on the counter

“He makes me feel loved, cherished, and safe.

I feel like an equal partner.

Im not doing most of the mental load.

A woman and a man are sharing a meal outdoors. She is holding a skewer of food, smiling, and facing the man who is also holding a skewer

We often discuss fantasies.

We continue to date.

u/princessbbdee

5.

A couple in cozy sweaters sits on a bed, looking at a phone together. The man wears a beanie, and the woman has her arm around him

We’ve been married for over 30 years, and our sex life has only gotten better.”

“We have been together for 12 years now.

It is the little things.

Two women laugh together on a cozy couch, holding mugs, leaning in close. The scene appears intimate and cheerful

He blow-dries my hair because I am afraid of the hottest setting on the hairdryer.

It makes me love him.

And then that’s basically a gateway drug for sex.”

u/foofymittens

7.

“As a happily married man, I learned that the courtship never ends.

DO THINGS WITH YOUR PARTNER!

Sitting at home and watching your favorite show together barely counts if you do it every night.

Whatever you did to get your partner in the beginning, keep doing it.

This is why it’s important to be yourself early in the relationship.”

“She reads erotic novels.”

u/skatemexico

9.

“We have date night every Saturday.

Even if we don’t have somewhere to go, we’ll go for a walk.

On date night, we are not allowed to talk about money, family, or work.

I have been with my partner for 24 years this September.”

It involves a boring but necessary task that creates stability, anticipated sex, and vulnerability through sharing emotions.

I feel that keeps our love and appreciation going.

Aside from that, we go on lots of dates, as we enjoy eating together.

He surprises me with flowers.

When he travels for work, he calls me to say goodnight and good morning.”

u/twodollabillyall

11.

“10-year relationship here.

My wife feels safe coming to me to tell me that she’s not feeling connected.

So we compromise and discuss what we can do to fix it.

It starts outside of the bedroom.

Also, I’m a huge fan of enthusiastic consent.

I will not pursue any sort of sexy times if I get pushback.

The bedroom should be fun, not a chore.”

“Take vacations without kids (if you have them) to adult-only locations.”

u/Puppysdad

13.

“We take breaks.

Sometimes a week, sometimes a month just to build up lust for one another then… boom.

We’re good for another four months or so.

We do this twice a year.”