Note: This post mentions pregnancy loss.
So weaskedourBuzzFeed Community, “Married women with in-laws, when did you notice they were beyond toxic?”
The stories were downright horrible.
Here’s what they had to say:
1.
His mom had been asking for photos to make an Instagram post, so we sent them to her.
I (the bride) was nowhere to be found.
From the look of the post, he might as well have gotten married to his mom.
It sucks because before we got engaged, I felt like his mom actually liked me.
It was sad getting ready alone, and everyone remembered her inviting us over!
Shes always been like that."
BeanieBaby99
3.
“We lived in the downstairs apartment.
It was never his fault; it was always mine.
It was pure hell.
Now, we’re divorced, and he still lives with his dad.”
“My MIL accused me of faking cancer.
There’s no coming back from that, really.”
Becca
5.
“There are two big moments that sealed their toxicity for me.
The first was six months after my father died suddenly.
(We only had a best man and maid of honor, no bridesmaids or groomsmen.)”
dmcrowe12
7.
“I remember I had barely moved into my in-laws house.
My brother-in-law had his girlfriend and baby living there, too, and they were teenagers at the time.
I thought it was weird, so I walked away.
It was because she would talk bad about me to her and vice versa.
Cher, 47, Florida
9.
“They have been absolutely lovely to me.
But to their own children, they are super toxic.
“My husband and I had been married about six years when my father’s cancer returned.
My mother-in-law had been bugging us for grandchildren for the past few years.
Mind you, I was the only person taking care of him; there was no other family around.
So I was supposed to be pregnant and then take care of a baby at the same time?
I wish my husband had never told me.”
Anonymous, 46, Pennsylvania
11.
He got caught driving after drinking a bit too much while I was in a different state?
I should’ve stopped him.
My partner got into an argument with his sister?
I should be reminding him to be more respectful.
He put on a couple of pounds?
I haven’t seen my mother-in-law in eight months now, and I put her on the block.
My partner 100% understands why.”
“They were always judgemental and pretty out of touch with normal people’s financial struggles.
But this really opened my eyes a lot.
My husband was laid off from his high-paying job and had been looking for work for many months.
We blew through a good portion of our savings trying to keep up.
I was taking extra shifts at work to cover costs as well as I could.
We began exploring selling the house as it was our most costly expense.
Also, hello!?
We are not going to spend money on repairs if we can hardly pay our mortgage to begin with.
And once your child grows up, you might’t dictate those sorts of things to them.
It’s not a proper thing to do to any adult.
And it was my husband’s money, not theirs.
In the end, we cut them out of our lives and put the money into savings.
By the way, we kept the letter his parents gave us and had it professionally framed and matted.
It hangs in our living room as a reminder of why we don’t talk to them anymore.
Anonymous, 42, Ohio
13.
My husband grew up in a house in the true middle class.
It must be so exciting for you!'
I knew right then that they saw me as ‘less than’ and not worthy of her son.
It is fine, though.
We are over 20 years strong now, and that’s really all that matters.”
He still maintains he said nothing wrong.”
The gift was a top from a high-end name-brand clothing store.
I was 23, had just moved to a new city, and was beyond broke.
What did I do?
