“I focused on my career after leaving an abusive ex.

I fell in love with a normal guy and married.”

“My oldest daughter’s father.

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They think they’re the final word in the relationship, home, and parenting.”

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3.

He had issues with debt, paying rent, and jumping into a failed business.

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Financial security wasn’t the only reason I was with him, but it did help.

He did things that I specifically told him not to do when I was drunk and he was sober.

So I got pregnant with his baby at 19.

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“I guess it has worked out a bit.

I have found out who my real friends were and learned who I could lean on in tough situations.

So I am thankful for all those people.”

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5.

My life started all over again.

I was able to save some money.

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I was able to spoil myself and get a completely new wardrobe over time, including my shoes.

I had money to pick up hobbies.

I learned to be comfortable being single.

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It helped me become a full, happy person.

Eventually, I met my current partner, and he added to my happiness.

I already did it once.

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I can do it again."

“I personally married for love, but 30 years later, I am mostly staying for financial reasons.

It’s the price I have to pay for staying I guess.

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Before anyone says I’m the AH, consider how he would feel if I left him.

He loves me still and depends on me.

He’s also a senior now.

He would be alone for the rest of his life.

I still care enough to not want to be that kind of AH.”

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7.

I ended both relationships and focused on my education and my career.

I’ve now exponentially grown my income and am financially independent.

“I’ll tell the story of my mom.

I actually dread to think what would have happened if it hadn’t been that way.

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9.

“I had 16 very lonely years.

Sure, vacations were cool.

I’m much, much happier now.

We also opted not to have kids because of finances.

I still wouldn’t choose a life where I depended on my partner for financial support.

What are you going to do if that person quits on you?

It takes two to make a relationship work, but only one person to end it.

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11.

“I spent nine years trying to join the two together.

My soon-to-be ex-husband was not only abusive, but he was also effectively a deadbeat.

He never managed or seemed willing to take a job exceeding $25/hour.

I was never in love with him, but I appreciated the financial stability.

He also taught me discipline and exceptional organizational skills, and he instilled a strong work ethic in me.

“Years later, I am making seven figures as an executive and in a stable, loving relationship.

Life turned out more than okay.

I still hear his voice in my head advising me.

I hope for the best for him.”

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13.

“My retirement is set.

I’ll be able to retire early if I want.

I own my own home with a beautiful view in a gorgeous location.

I have my dream car.

Okay, reading the other responses I realize you’re not asking about personal financial security.

You’re asking about being with a man for his money.

Fuck that, make your own.

My ex had more money than I did, and he used it to abuse me constantly.

I make the money, so you’ll do what I want.

I make the money, so you have to go where I want.

I make the money, so you eat what I want.”