“My fiance was in love with his mother.
Warning: This post contains mentions of abuse and drug use.
Here are some of the most eye-opening, heartbreaking, and shocking stories:
1.
“Lets just say, I dumped his sorry ass in Vegas.”
lexilikesprime
2.
“We were talking about our reception and ceremony.
He was a former firefighter and wanted to ‘save me’ from a burning stage.
At first, I thought it was a joke because he also did improv, but nope.
(I know, the red flags were there.)
This is a man who was financially dependent on me and also treated me like I was his mother.
I cooked, cleaned, paid for everything, and he still saw me as the damsel in distress.
That was the nail in the coffin.
36, Minnesota
3.
“My fiance was in love with his mother.
Im not being dramatic his phone contact for her was ‘Mommy’ with several hearts.
Sometimes, he would cry and ask for his mommy.
I know it sounds harsh, and there is nothing wrong with loving your parents.
He texted his mom several times an hour.
He called her at least five times a day.”
There is only so much I could take.”
25, California
4.
Honestly, he was an OK guy…until he wasnt.
He was a selfish, man-child narcissist, and I just no longer liked him as a person.
I never looked back.
Big bullet dodged there.”
40, USA
5.
I was working really hard to get my dream job.
Long story short, I got my dream job and had to go out of town for training.
I never brought this up to him directly but tried to slide it into conversation.
Eventually, he knew that I knew and broke up with me officially."
“I moved out within two weeks to another state and completely started my life over.
He reached out almost a year later and wanted to work things out.
30, Pennsylvania
6. goldenlion71
7.
“We met on a dating app.
Our relationship was very intense, moved fast, and had love bombing in the beginning.
I was like wow, how is this attractive, sweet guy still single?
There were multiple red flags.
The first I noticed was alcohol and drug abuse.
It would make him act erratic.
I blamed this on the substance issues, so I stayed because he promised to quit.
Second, I noticed how irresponsible he was about paying his bills.
Getting him to pay was like pulling teeth.
It was so stressful.”
I was so turned off by him, that I would instinctively push his touch away.
I would only be able to have sex with him if I had alcohol.
Even then, I couldnt wait for it to be over.
Then, I started to be a binge drinker, too.
I was very fit when we met.
He was extremely jealous.
I couldnt work out without him because then he would get insecure.
When I invited him on a run, he faked asthma attacks.
I invited him to the gym, and he would get mad because ‘everyone is staring at him.’
I started not wearing my engagement ring because I felt so fake.
I kept ‘forgetting it at home.’
We started not planning a wedding due to ‘saving up.’
Even he started catching on at this point.
He initiated the breakup, and I gladly agreed.
I guess he was expecting me to fight for us so he threw a tantrum.The breakup was so dramatic.
He started sending me harassing messages and stalking me.All of this was over and done within two years.
Im too weary to date now.
I’m happy and peaceful in my solitude.
I dont care if I meet anyone again.
I have trauma and dont trust my judgment anymore.”
31, California
8.
It was our five-year anniversary, and he hadn’t made any plans whatsoever.
He kept saying, ‘I don’t care where we go for dinner.’
So, I found a place.
I paid, as usual.
Got home and got ready for bed.
Contacts out and everything.
He asked for a sip of my bedside water and the ring box was next to it."
We were done two weeks later."
37, New Jersey
9.
“I was engaged to a soldier in the army.
We had been together for six years and engaged for two.
He asked me to go with him.”
I explained all this to him and told him I wanted to get married before we moved.
Im happily married now, so all is well."
Anonymous, Texas
10.
In his defense, he was in the hospital after a work accident.
Id spent the previous week by his bedside every evening after my workday.
He reacted badly, shouting, screaming, and swearing at me over the telephone.
My parents heard it all."
“I calmly hung up with him and told them that I would not be marrying him.
‘The officers gave me cover to pull things from the house and drive to a friends place.”
42, Pennsylvania
11.
The wedding was planned and almost everything was arranged.
Despite communicating, nothing changed to an equal level.
At some point, I got exhausted to the point of depression, and my relationship caused me anxiety.
“Roughly eight months before the wedding, the engagement was called off and our relationship ended.
27, Anonymous
12.
“We were six months away from the wedding, and he became controlling and verbally abusive.
He put a picture of a bikini model on the fridge so Id eat less.
I left and met my now-husband of 18 years .
Calling off my first wedding and engagement was the best thing I ever did!”
rachway
13.
His heavy metal garage band was going to make him famous and that took precedence over everything and everyone.
I had booked the church and reception, and I had just bought my dress.
“So, I gave back the ring, moved back to my hometown, and got my degree.
41, North Carolina
14.
“We got engaged after less than a year of dating.
Then, one evening, I asked him to bring some food home, and he didn’t.
The moment I recovered, I started packing my bags.
I moved back home a few days later and ended our engagement on the phone the following day.
42, Ireland
15.
“I left him on our wedding day.
Our relationship was toxic, lots of emotional and mental abuse from him.
I stayed because I got pregnant and wanted our baby to have a family.
It was a beautiful sunny day as I was driving with my aunt to the outdoor wedding venue.
There was one cloud off in the distance that was dark and ominous.
That cloud waited until it was right at our wedding venue to open up and rain.
Then, the cloud moved on, and it was beautiful and sunny again.
My aunt said, ‘Well, God didn’t want that to happen.
If that’s not a sign, I don’t know what is.'”
38, Virginia
16.
We had a 6-week-old daughter, and I put her first and called off the wedding.
“My daughter still grew up with her father in her life, but I moved on.
I focused on raising her and building our great relationship.
I met my husband about 10 years ago, and we got married this past fall.”
45, New York
And finally…
17.“Cheating.
But not just any cheating, no.
I called off the wedding, and he begged me to take him back.
“He tried to convince me to raise the baby with them.No.
I was so done.”
37, Florida
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